Am I Just Being Too Hard???
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|Thu, 01-14-2010 - 2:08pm|
Ok, so I posted a couple weeks back regarding my SO spending too much and of course it turned out to be so much more. Well, we had another arguement last night, mostly me instigating, which I did not mean to do.
What happened was the other night I asked him how much "stuff" he had left and he said he just had a little and he said that was it no more. I know better than that. So, then yesterday he asked to borrow my card, I said I didn't want to see him put more than 5 on it if all he was getting was a drink and something else it should not be more than that. Well, later I check my account and he spent under that at one store and went to another store and spent a small amount. It was a little over five. That wasn't the issue. the issue is I know what he did. He bought what he said he was going to buy at one store, then went to another to buy what he needed for his "stuff".
Well I called him after work and jokingly said he owed me a dollar. Then he said yeah he went to both stores to get more black and milds because he realized it was cheaper at the other store. LIE LIE LIE!!!. That means he should have had about 4 of them total. So, then I made a comment about why didn't he just go to the other store to begin with if he knew they were cheaper there. I know he bought the bad stuff at one store and his black and milds at the other because he did not buy a drink like he said. So then he blew up about why i'm asking and it's like I don't trust him and how he was going to just have his own space so he doesn't get questioned anymore blah blah blah.
I got upset because if he is even mentioning how it seems like I don't trust him then he must have not listened to me when I flat out told him I don't trust him the other night. Figures. So, I get mad and go home barely talked to him. Then i'm on the phone and he hands me my purse so I could give him the change I have to buy another black and mild. ???? Remeber, I said he should have had about 4 from earlier. And he does not smoke that many in the little amount of time that he supposedly bought them. That only tells me that the first two trips he only bought maybe two and the rest was the bad stuff that I don't like. Already, lying again.
So, after I get off the phone I notice that he left his phone next to me. I checked the messages of course and of course was right on point. He was already texting our neighbor all week saying he was going to buy the pot today, because he gets paid today. Surprise surprise. So, I go to the office and he's of course got this cat who ate the canary smile and I knew something was up already because as soon as I got home he was loving and doting. So he asks what's up and I just gave him the look and said, "It's funny how you needed change to buy what you should have bought earlier." So that started it off. Turned into him saying how I keep giving him an ultimatum and how I don't understand and had the nerve to say i'd rather him smoke what can kill him instead of smoking pot. ??????
I was infuriated because he knows how much I have tried helping him quit smoking. I don't push it on him, but when he talks about wanting to quit I try helping him and i'm always buying him the gum and patches and I buy them after I ask I don't do it without telling him. Yet, he wants to sit there saying i'd rather him smoke that just because I don't like pot. So, then he starts going off on how that's all he has and that we don't ever do anything or go out and so he just gets away by smoking because it helps calm him and ease his mind from his troubles. That i'll never get it. I just could not believe him so I told him to do him after a