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| Fri, 06-09-2006 - 2:10am |
I am having problems with my DH as usual. I feel bad cause I feel like he is always "not doing" what he should be. I know that might sound alittle bossy but I can promise you that im not. I am just really sick of everything.
I had posted a bulletin before about my husband's drinking & putting his friends first, which has calmed down some but not totally.
Well, to get to the point, this last weekend my hubby got alittle drunk with his friends. And when hes drunk hes honest. He actually opened up to everyone & had said some things that bothered me alot.
He said that he knows hes not close to our daughter. He said he can look at her & know it's his, but he cant feel it!!!!! I might need to add that my husband was at war during most of my pregnancy & after she was born for the first 3 or 4 months.
He thinks thats why they aren't close. She is 2 yrs. old now. I can understand him, but only to a point. I have to b*tch at him just to spend time with her. He doesn't make an effort with her. I think thats why their not close, which upsets me horribly!
And ontop of that me & him are getting worse because of me. I am just getting more & more depressed. I am numb!
I have talked to him several times about what my needs are with him & he never does it!
Right now I need him to get his sh*t together & be a better daddy & be a better husband to me. Cause right now I feel like a single mom. He is out of town every week & when he does come home we really don't talk & he would rather go play or drink with his friends.
As for our marriage I have asked him to try to be more appreciating &/or romantic with me & even given him ideas. I have done alot of romantic things for him myself, but he looks at me like im stupid & makes me feel horrible for even trying.
And I will say that he has asked things of me to make him happy & I have done them 100%.
And I think the crappiest part about it is that I am sick right now. I found out that I had cancer 3 months ago & he still acts like he doesn't appreicate me. I would have thought it would scare him alittle bit, but I guess not. He got mad at me for not cleaning the house last week when I had a kendey infection on top of all the other stuff that makes me weak.
If he won't try with me then I don't want to stay! But I am married & I don't want to give up on him too quick. He didn't used to be like this before he went to Iraq.
I was wondering if anyone had any good ideas of how I can maybe help him & get him to understand what he is doing to our family? Or maybe if it's too late to try anymore?
I had posted a bulletin before about my husband's drinking & putting his friends first, which has calmed down some but not totally.
Well, to get to the point, this last weekend my hubby got alittle drunk with his friends. And when hes drunk hes honest. He actually opened up to everyone & had said some things that bothered me alot.
He said that he knows hes not close to our daughter. He said he can look at her & know it's his, but he cant feel it!!!!! I might need to add that my husband was at war during most of my pregnancy & after she was born for the first 3 or 4 months.
He thinks thats why they aren't close. She is 2 yrs. old now. I can understand him, but only to a point. I have to b*tch at him just to spend time with her. He doesn't make an effort with her. I think thats why their not close, which upsets me horribly!
And ontop of that me & him are getting worse because of me. I am just getting more & more depressed. I am numb!
I have talked to him several times about what my needs are with him & he never does it!
Right now I need him to get his sh*t together & be a better daddy & be a better husband to me. Cause right now I feel like a single mom. He is out of town every week & when he does come home we really don't talk & he would rather go play or drink with his friends.
As for our marriage I have asked him to try to be more appreciating &/or romantic with me & even given him ideas. I have done alot of romantic things for him myself, but he looks at me like im stupid & makes me feel horrible for even trying.
And I will say that he has asked things of me to make him happy & I have done them 100%.
And I think the crappiest part about it is that I am sick right now. I found out that I had cancer 3 months ago & he still acts like he doesn't appreicate me. I would have thought it would scare him alittle bit, but I guess not. He got mad at me for not cleaning the house last week when I had a kendey infection on top of all the other stuff that makes me weak.
If he won't try with me then I don't want to stay! But I am married & I don't want to give up on him too quick. He didn't used to be like this before he went to Iraq.
I was wondering if anyone had any good ideas of how I can maybe help him & get him to understand what he is doing to our family? Or maybe if it's too late to try anymore?

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I will reply soon to everything. At the moment I am pretty sick. I am running a 103.0 degree fever & can barely walk around. I got a bad infection running through me so I got some meds from a friend & I am trying to take it easy.
Thank you so much again!!!
XOXOXOXOXO
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