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Back in the Saddle
| Mon, 03-06-2006 - 8:33pm |
So I am just getting back in to the dating scene and I met my boyfriend on one of those online dating sites. We have been together over 3 months and I have fallen for him completely. I went to the site where we met just to make sure that my profile was turned off. Before I did that I checked out his profile to see one of his pictures (he looks so cute in it). It said that he had visited the site within the last week. This confuses me because I thought we were moving to a different stage of our relationship (we've met each others family etc). Does it mean something if he's out there? I don't think he's cheating on me, but I don't understand why he would be looking.

Welcome to the board, Hopelesslyinlove06 ~
A couple of question first:
Are you two in a "same time" relationship or are you in a "long distance, internet" kind of relationship? Did the two of you talk and agree to move to a different stage in your relationship and to each turn off your profiles? If you didn't, I'd say you may have made some assumptions about your relationship that he isn't in agreement on. If you have, I'd say the person to ask about his profile is him. And if you do ask him, I'd be interested to know what his answer is.
I would caution you pretty strongly about falling completely for anyone after having only known him for three months. Three months is still the very bare beginning of a relationship, there's much more you don't know about him than what you do know about him, despite how it feels. Until you've been in a relationship with someone for a good year you don't really know who he (or she) is; at this stage you're still in the "impress each other" stage of the game, you haven't seen him let down and be who he really is, you don't know how he reacts to a million situations and you don't yet know if his behavior matches what he says he feels about a lot of things. I would really recommend you hang onto your heart and lead with your head at this point, even though it's much more fun to lead with your heart. Liking what you see is great, but keep in mind that there are still plenty of curves in the road and you aren't able to see around those curves just yet.
I'll be checking back for your answers ~
~ cl-2nd_life"Experience is what you get
when you don't get what you want."
~ Author unknown
"Ignoring the facts
does not change the facts"