becoming serious

iVillage Member
Registered: 05-23-2003
becoming serious
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Thu, 06-12-2003 - 11:17am
I just have a question. I've been going out with my boyfriend for about eight months now. We see each other usually twice or three times a week and get along great. This is pretty much my first relationship that I would like to take further. How do you start the discussion about becoming serious or making the commitments that couples do? I want to talk to him and tell him that we are exclusive and that sort of thing. Can you give me some hints as to how to go about starting such a discussion and not scaring the boots off my man???? I need some help!! Thanx
iVillage Member
Registered: 05-20-2003
Thu, 06-12-2003 - 12:49pm
For me...when I decided that I wanted to be exclusive (w/my now hubby) I waited until we were in a casual, relaxing atmosphere (not the "honey we need to talk" kind) and asked how he would feel if I went out w/someone else. This got the ball rolling. Of course, I immediately told him that wasn't my real interest but he quickly picked up on what I wanted to know.
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Registered: 04-01-2003
Thu, 06-12-2003 - 11:52pm
Am I missing something? You have been together for eight months, and you call him your boyfriend, but you have not established that you are an "exclusive" couple yet? I guess I just don't understand why you would be so nervous about talking to this guy, who you said you get along great with. What is it that you are afraid of? Do you think he doesn't see it coming? It's been the better part of a year! I don't think you will be hitting him upside the head with this unless he is totally obtuse. I think you are worrying for nothing. If he is as great as you think he is, there is nothing to worry about! Just cuddle up next to him when you are feeling loved and loving, and tell him how you feel. Chances are, he's feeling the same way.

April