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|Thu, 03-27-2003 - 9:09pm|
This is what happened this past weekend:
H'f friend asked if he wanted to go fishing, h said no "he needed to spend time with family" (he had spent the past 2 previous weekend at friends house), So i was glad to see he was gonna stay home...Well before I knew it the weekend had come and H was going over to friend's house, to help him pick up a computer desk at the store. Even though i was disappointed i didn't say anything, and h promised he would go straight to store and come straight home.
Well 2 hrs later H called to say he was gonna stay at friends house for a bit. After hearing this I , of course, was angry now. Not just because he had originally told me he would be at home and then wasn't, and not just because he said he would come straight home and then didn't, but the night before I had asked if he minded watching the kids and his response was "I'm not getting stuck home with the kids"! (his exact words)
When he finally did come home, he had friend "in tow", who stayed for 4 hrs. Now at this point he knew I was mad and when I tried to talk (ok there was some yelling..lol) he just said "Fine, have your girls night out". I feel like he was saying "if it will shut u up then have your girls nite out"
It wasn't even about the girls nite out, the only reason I even mentioned about the previous nights conversation was because i wanted to show him how I "ask" if he would mind if i went out and he stayed home with the kids, not because I feel I need to have permission, but out of curtousy of his feelings and plans.Where as he just goes and does as he pleases without a thought of how i feel about itor what i may have planned and if i am upset later he just tries to "throw me a bone" to get me to shut up.
He is constantly telling me that he is not gonna do something and then when he gets around other people, he does the opposite, and when i find out he just says "sorry, i'll try harder". It just hurts, because i feel like every time he does this he is choosing them over me. and i don't know maybe i am being selfish and reading to much into it but I see it like this...on the above example he had a choice 3x.
1) could have not gone at all.
2) could have come straight home.
3) or when he called he could have came home then instead of later, since i was upset about him staying.
Yet all 3 times, he did the opposite.
Am I being selfish and reading to much into it? If it was just this one instance then maybe, but given that he is constantly doing this, I don't think I am.