Bite Marks

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Registered: 01-27-2006
Bite Marks
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Sat, 05-06-2006 - 10:37am

my boyfriend was out last night with the guys and he told me this really slutty girl that they know from work was there. she was upset because her fiance broke up with her (because shes a whore) and so she was drunk and going around biting the guys. my boyfriend has 2 bite marks on him - one from when he gave her a hug and another from when he was talking to someone else and she just came up and bit him.

i dont know how i feel about this. i mean, its not his fault, he wasnt asking for it. and he called me and told me about it. on the other hand, my boyfriend has bite marks on him from another girl. how am i supposed to have sex with him like that?

i want to be the bigger person here and i dont want to overreact, but im not sure what the best way would be for me to react to this situation. any thoughts?

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Registered: 01-13-2006
In reply to: kikikosky
Sat, 05-06-2006 - 1:38pm

kikikosky,

I'm just curious before I respond, what was his reaction about it when he called you?? Was he like mad that she did it and discussed by it or was he like thinking it was funny?? How you should handle this kind of is associated with how he did.

I'll be waiting for your answer.

defleppardgal

Defleppardgal

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In reply to: kikikosky
Sat, 05-06-2006 - 1:55pm

I don't get why you're upset, not if you believe his story anyway. Do you? If you do, what's to overreact about? And why would the marks be an issue with having sex? What's there to be "the bigger person" about?

I'll be waiting for your answers and will have more when I understand.







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Registered: 12-31-2004
In reply to: kikikosky
Sat, 05-06-2006 - 6:31pm

Is he at least up to date on his tetanus shots?

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Registered: 03-25-2003
In reply to: kikikosky
Sun, 05-07-2006 - 3:37pm

Have you seen the other guys' bite marks?

Jen

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Registered: 01-06-2004
In reply to: kikikosky
Tue, 05-09-2006 - 11:36am

I'm with another psoter who wanted to know how he reacted when he told you. If he seemed completely disgusted, you probbaly don't ahve anything to worry about. Even if he didn't, you may not.

I figured out soemthing about myself shortly before I got married. It was pretty tough for me to admit to. Maybe you feel the smae way.

You see I discovered I am VERY territorial. Not quite go pee down my man's leg to mark him as mine territiorial, but pretty darn close. You see I just plain don't like it when another woman makes it known that she has designs on my man. There's something about knowing that a woman would assume that I take a long walk off a short pier so she can step into my shoes that just irritates me.

I do 100% trust my husband. I know that he wouldn't cheat or anything like that so I'm not even worried about that. I know he thinks I'm sexy as heck and that he has no desire to be with another so it's not that sort of insecurity.

It just bugs me that some skeeze is hanging on him and flirting with him thinking that she may even have a snowballs chance, even though I know and my husband knows she doesn't.

My point is even if you are very secure and trust your SO completely, I think it's pretty natural to just be upset and annoyed and bristle a bit at having your territory invaded, especially as flagrantly as this chick did. Some may call it jealousy or insecurity, I prefer to think of it as animal instinct to guard what I think of as MINE, as in "Hands (or in your case teeth) of beeeoootch."

If it was me, I'd talk to him and tell him that I don't blame him for what happened, but I would appreciate it if he made it clear to her that her behavior is not acceptable. I would also ask him to please, leave any non-mandatory gatherings she attended as soon as he can without making a scene. In other word have his one drink, make his apologies/excuses for an early exit and remove himself.

Yes, men hate confrontation and they'd rather avoid saying to her about it; but, I don't think it's an unreasonable request. He can easily make a joke out of it with her and still convey that it wans't appreciated. Something along the lines of, "Hey, you got me in big trouble the other night with that biting crap. You better lay off that Vampira." said with a smile on his face and just a bit of a laugh in his voice it wont come off as being mean but it will still get the point across.

Unless he's into vampires I wouldn't sweat it too much.