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|Tue, 05-06-2003 - 4:09pm|
My boyfriend and I have been together for only two months and everything has been great until one weekend that I went back home from school. My boyfriend called me everyday but on the sunday that I got back I didn't get a call, which was a little surprising. So I called him and asked to see him and he said he was tired b/c he was out of town all weekend as well. He said he would call me back but he never did. Then days go by and I call him everyday and I can't get in touch with him. I talked to his friends and they said that they saw him out a few nights. Finally I got in touch with him on Thursday and we had a huge talk. He explained to me that he's just been really tired lately and that he just got out of a two year relationship and he'sjust been trying to do his own thing this week. I thought he was going to break up with me but in the end he said he didn't want to. So we worked things out and everything pretty much returned to normal but, that following weekend on Saturday, we go out to a club with all our friends. We're sitting outside the club and this girl comes and sits on my boyfriends lap. He tells her to get up a few times and she does. Then he introduces me to her. It's his ex. They're best friends as well. She asks what my name was and then she says "oh, so how do you know ryan? (my b/f)"...At this point, I'm a little confused to why she doesn't know about me, and I know so much about her. I tell her i'm ryan's boyfriend and she goes "oh, well don't get offended when you see me sitting on his lap or hugging him, we're just cool like that, we go way back, I was his first love and he was mine..." She went on and on and I felt so uncomfortable. I guess I was being a little jealous, but I just felt like she was laying the rules down and letting me know "this is how it is when i'm with ryan and don't change that. The rest of the night I was on the other side of the club by myself and he was on the other side sitting on her lap, having all this fun with her. So finally he came up to me and was like "what's up" and I told him that I felt uncomfotable that she was all over him. HE completely lashed out and was like "no, i'm not dealing with this, her and I go way back and I have a right to talk to her". I said "i understand, but I wish you would include me, why am I on one side of the room while you are on the other with arms around her?" He just walked away and went back to her. That was on saturday and now it is tuesday and he still hasn't called. I just dont' understand what happened recently he's always been so good to me and I was beginning to fall for him, but then this happened. I just want to talk to him but I don't know what to say. Everybody want's me to break up with him because of what happened, but I don't think i should. I just don't what to say if he calls or if I call him. Sorry this was such a long message...I need help fast!