boyfriend vs. cat

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Registered: 03-09-2012
boyfriend vs. cat
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Fri, 03-09-2012 - 3:00pm

i am 37 yrs old and have been in a relationship for almost 9 mths now..i have no complaints about my b/f..he's a wonderful ,loving, caring, respectful man and i couldn't ask for more..i am also a "parent" of a 5 yr. old cat named BooBoo..Boo came

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Registered: 11-28-1999
Fri, 03-09-2012 - 3:05pm

I think waiting til little Boo passes on until you live w/ your BF (or any man) is kind of extreme unless you have tried every other possible thing.

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Registered: 09-17-2005
Fri, 03-09-2012 - 3:49pm
In my opinion, the boyfriend is the problem. He freaked out and wanted to hit an animal because it gave him a little scratch? This is not an animal lover and for me, that's a deal breaker. I get the impression that had you not been there to stop him, he WOULD have hit Boo. I'm sorry but anyone who even "wanted" to hit my cat would never be welcome in my home ever again.

And why is he refusing to try the shirt idea? It sounds to me like your boyfriend is purposely making things difficult. So what if a cat hisses and meows at him? Ignore it. I have to wonder if Boo can sense that your boyfriend doesn't like him/pets and that is, at least in part, why he's hostile.

Also, don't assume Boo will only live another few years, especially if he's strictly an indoor cat. The average life expectancy for indoor male cats is 12-14 years. My last cat was an indoor male and was 17 when he died! If Boo is indoors, assume that he probably will live at least another 7 years.
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Registered: 12-22-2007
Fri, 03-09-2012 - 6:55pm

I wouldn't live away from my partner because of an animal either.

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Registered: 10-25-2002
Fri, 03-09-2012 - 9:27pm
loose the BF and keep the cat! Yes, like the others said.. red flags. What kind of man can't be mature and man up.. just a little cat .. geez! This would certainly be a deal breaker for me.
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Registered: 02-15-2008
Fri, 03-09-2012 - 9:27pm

Hi snicklefritz,

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Registered: 01-03-2004
Fri, 03-09-2012 - 10:44pm

Hi,

You say, "he's a wonderful ,loving, caring, respectful man."

Yet your boyfriend sounds very immature and selfish. I observe when something isn't his idea he rejects it. For example, you asked what to do to help your cat be more accepting of your BF.

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Registered: 04-21-2008
Thu, 03-15-2012 - 10:36am

Hi and welcome.

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Registered: 09-21-2011
Thu, 03-15-2012 - 10:50am

That show is hilarious!

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Registered: 04-21-2008
Thu, 03-15-2012 - 10:53am
I know, right? I think I like it even better than Dog Whisperer. ;)

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