Boyfriend's Mom Stressing Me Out

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Registered: 01-04-2012
Boyfriend's Mom Stressing Me Out
Thu, 01-05-2012 - 12:09am

I am just very frustrated and need to vent/ accept advice.

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Registered: 04-16-2008
Thu, 01-05-2012 - 1:03am
Since you have no control over his moms behavior and you are living in THEIR house there really isn't much you can do. It sounds like his mom may have some emotional problems, but you pretty much have to deal with the living situation as is until you can find a way to move out. You may have to wait until your BF gets that construction business going and profitable unless you can find some place else to live in the meantime.
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Registered: 05-18-2009
Thu, 01-05-2012 - 8:40am

I agree with peaceyma. I'm not sure what you expect, you can't control this situation because it is not your home. If you consider this to be a temporary arrangement (you really cannot find a job while you get your teaching certification?) then you have to deal with it until you can leave. If you can't make money, then you're not making good career decisions. A job/career is, first and foremost, a way for you to survive. I don't know anyone in education who has done an un-paid student teaching position. If you are teaching until 2-3pm, then why dont' you have time for a part time job?

Whyyy do you have two dogs together if you don't even have your own place?

I can see that you're fed up and frustrated but what are you DOING in order to get out of this situation?

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Registered: 11-28-1999
Thu, 01-05-2012 - 4:34pm

I thought all student teaching was unpaid but usually it's done as part of a bachelor's degree while the student is in college.

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Registered: 07-29-2002
Thu, 01-05-2012 - 9:56pm

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Registered: 05-14-2001
Fri, 01-06-2012 - 3:37am
Welcome to the board, Ersandy1 ~ I completely agree with the Peacemya and Crab. The situation you describe sounds incredibly chaotic, dysfunctional and completely impossible to live in, but as this is not your home, you have no right to expect change. I too question why you continue to live in such a chaotic, dysfunctional mess. Where did you live before moving there? Why can't you get a job while you're going to school? Your boyfriend is trying to get his father's construction business going but his father is all talk. In other words, his father isn't taking action that will make the company workable. So why is your boyfriend staying in a situation that assures he'll fail? He can't make it work and the person who can won't. It's time for your boyfriend to look out for himself, get a real job and become self sufficient, THEN work with dad getting his business up IF dad is willing to do the work he needs to do. It makes no sense to defeat himself as he's doing now. People generally are motivated to make changes when their situation becomes uncomfortable enough that they can no longer accept it. I would think you'd be there. I know I would.

~ cl-2nd_life