Call off the Wedding?

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Registered: 03-04-2012
Call off the Wedding?
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Sun, 03-04-2012 - 4:51pm

I will try to make this as short as possible, but I could really use some quality advice.

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iVillage Member
Registered: 07-21-2007
Sun, 03-04-2012 - 5:53pm

Generally from what I've learned people have very strong opinions when it comes to prenups. Personally I don't, and I think such fighing over a prenup is ridiculous. However I do believe he definitly should have brought

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Registered: 03-04-2012
Sun, 03-04-2012 - 6:40pm

Thanks for the reply

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Registered: 04-23-2010
Sun, 03-04-2012 - 8:22pm

This isn't the last time that you will be surprised, and it won't be the worst.

We only miss what could have been. I know I don't miss what it really was.

iVillage Member
Registered: 04-20-2009
Mon, 03-05-2012 - 10:02am

To give you a little perspective the advice I am going to give, I will tell you that I am in my mid-40s and have been married twice - 10 years each time.

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Registered: 03-04-2012
Mon, 03-05-2012 - 10:41am

I called it off!

iVillage Member
Registered: 03-04-2012
Mon, 03-05-2012 - 1:51pm

Thank you all so much for the replies.

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Registered: 07-29-2002
Mon, 03-05-2012 - 2:32pm

If I may make a suggestion.

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iVillage Member
Registered: 09-21-2011
Mon, 03-05-2012 - 2:42pm

Don't let yourself get into the trap of thingking it couild have been fixed. He was setting the tone for the way your entire marriage would have been. He is an immature self centerede spoiled baby.

iVillage Member
Registered: 07-21-2007
Tue, 03-06-2012 - 11:45am

Glad to hear you called it off! I called of my wedding back in 2008, so your not the only one who has had to deal with such a hard decision. It's really scary, I woke up 10 days before and knew thats what I had to do.Everything was already paid for,all the invites were sent out, I had already been thrown two bridal showers. But I called my dad that morning and my best friend and they came over,along with my best friends parents and helped me pack up all of my stuff and leave the apartment my ex and I shared. I had doubts, I thought, omg everyone will be so mad at me for cancelling so close to the date. But infact it was the very opposite.I had people tell me they fully supported me in whatever I chose and that I had to do what was best for me.I even had people tell me they were glad I was leaving my fiance because they never really liked him from the beginning and got bad vibes from him! My dad is a good negotiator and got most of his money back from everything he paid for, so not a tonn of money was lost.

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Registered: 03-04-2012
Wed, 03-07-2012 - 4:59pm

Things are going well, a bit sad, but things are going well.

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