Can a woman really stopped loving...

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Registered: 11-09-2003
Can a woman really stopped loving...
Thu, 04-03-2003 - 5:37pm
her husband that she had for 12 yrs? This is not my case, it is my cousin's case. My cousin already separated from her husband of 12 yrs, they share a 7 yrd daughter. They are not legally divorced yet, just separated, because they have to give the law time to be legally divorced. The husband was never unfaithful and she was never unfaithful either, he is a good dad, they had different way of thinking. She said that she simply stopped loving him. The guy was never an expressive and attentive guy, he is very reserved and shy person. That was one of the reasons for their separation, there are others as well.

I just was thinking to myself that how come a man or a woman who spend so many years to together and sharing many things, the love dissapears out of the blue.

I also cannot imagine those couples who have 30 yrs and all of sudden they decided to divorce, how come after so so many years, I wonder.

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Registered: 03-26-2003
Thu, 04-03-2003 - 6:22pm
The answer's the same as it's been each and every time you post with someone else's issues. This is not your concern or your business. It is up to them to make choices and decisions in their lives as it is they who have to live it. You don't have to agree or wonder if it's right. It's right for them and that ends the discussion!


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Registered: 04-03-2003
Fri, 04-04-2003 - 12:47am
I believe you can fall out of love. Sad but true. It is a good thing that do not stay together. Love is a very important part in a relationship. Love will keep it going.
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Fri, 04-04-2003 - 3:51pm
It didn't happen "all of a sudden", just as people don't really fall in love at first sight. Without talking to him or her here, we might not get a good feel for the actual problems, but if a couple doesn't put a healthy dose of effort into maintaining a relationship, it can die a slow, painful death. Just a guess that's what has happened, they simply are not compatible.