Can't talk about money after 25 years!
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|Fri, 10-08-2010 - 12:05am|
Hi all. New here, but not new to ivillage. Been around since 2001. Love ivillage!
Tonight I find myself in tears yet again. A huge empty aching pain right in the middle of my chest. Like my heart has been ripped out.
DH has once again "scolded" me for taking money from him! A mere $20 to buy the kids some dinner! Might seem crazy to some of you but its a very very long story.
We are married 25 years, have always had seperate bank accounts and money. I have had a real tough go of it, healthwise, for the last 10 years. Suffered physical and mental issues. So much so, that I lost 2 great jobs due to my illnesses.
DH "covered" us during long legal battles with both employers - and when the legal battles were settled and the money was paid to me (severance, benefits etc) I paid off all the bills... we're talking 10's of thousands. I even filed bankruptcy for my own bills years ago, so that "we" could save "his" credit - one of us had to be able to "get credit".
DH has never trusted me with money. He blames all ours bills and debt on me! He makes a modest salary as a trade worker. He is a dedicated worker, never misses a day! I, on the other hand, miss alot of work. Like I said, I have legitimate health issues.
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