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Career Stress
| Wed, 04-19-2006 - 8:32pm |
Hi buds! I recently had a discussion with my bf about being focused on my spiritual and career goals. I like to have fun with him, but he's too much lately. He is settled in his career has an easy desk job making 55K, hardly no stress. I am struggling and have been for quite some time now (3 yrs) and folks as you know the high gas prices don't help. I got bosses watching me like a hawk and going on job interviews is not fun. I'm not jealous of him, he's just set and can relax and I can't. I recently told him about a few downfalls on the career front. I do know what I want and it's similar to what he's doing, but it's a male dominated field so it's been hard for me. I have asked him for a few days now if he wants to discusss work related issues and he just grunts and changes the subject. I don't bug him about it I just need a little support when I know I have an interview coming up. Men are sooo stupid! I'd like to see him go on a job interview and see how nervous he gets. Geeez. Then he said I hurt his feelings when I said I needed some space cause I had some decisions to make on what job to take! He said "so I'm just a distraction?" I saw ya, cause you really don't know do you. He said well I haven't had to interview in 15 yrs. gawd. Any input here?

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I'm posting the link to your previous post so that those who aren't familiar with it have a chance to get a broader perspective on your relationship/guy. It may seem like it's totally unrelated, but I think it might offer some clues to his personality, and having more insight into that will definitely help in offering suggestions!
I've just arrived home from work and need to get going on dinner, I'll be back in a while to post my thoughts!
~ cl-2nd_life"Experience is what you get
when you don't get what you want."
~ Author unknown
"Ignoring the facts
does not change the facts"
If you want to talk about work related issues, you're going to have to say something more along the lines of, "I need some pointers on XXXX, I really need your help with this, could you talk to me about it for a while?" A big thing about men is they're very "help" oriented as a rule. Let them know you need their help and you've got their attention. It's an important way to start a discussion with a guy, it really helps get him in the "attentive, help mode". I know this isn't an argument, but some of the suggestions listed on these constructive arguing articles are very good general information on proactive communication in general. I think they'll help you have better communication with your guy:
Verbal Fencing With Someone You Love
Ten Rules For Fair Fighting
Dos and Don'ts For Fair Fighting
Conflicts - Points to Remember
Let us know how it goes!
~ cl-2nd_life"Experience is what you get
when you don't get what you want."
~ Author unknown
"Ignoring the facts
does not change the facts"
You can't change him, you can't make a difference in what he does. He's chosen what he's going to do, all you can do is make choices for yourself based on your situation is, whether you're willing to deal with it, and how long you're willing to deal with it.
~ cl-2nd_life
"Experience is what you get
When you don't get what you want"
~ Author unknown
"Ignoring the facts
does not change the facts"