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| Tue, 01-24-2006 - 2:50pm |
I have been with my husband for a little over 2 years, we are expecting our first child in June and things just seem to be getting stranger by the day. Our sex life is essentially non existant and whenever I try to bring it up or see if its the pregnancy belly that is turning him off - he tells me no. He is not very affectionate with me anymore and often prefers to sleep on the couch than in the bed with me.
He is somewhat of a flirt and I've always known that about him - it never used to bother me- but now I feel suspicious of all the text messages (from the same people as before) mostly other women (supposed friends). When I question him about them - he tells me there is nothing going on.
I guess my concern is that he was married twice before and both marraiges ended because his spouse cheated on him (or so I have been told) is it possible that he would be cheating on me? Even emotionally cheating and then lying to me when I try to discuss it with him? Or is just the hormones that are making me crazy?

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None of what's happening is reasonable, but you know that. I'm struggling with what to say to you, don't want to cause alarm, but I think, like Dirextor you already know, you just don't want it to be so. Yeah, he may be home at night, but plenty of guys have lunch hour affairs. And quite frankly, an emotional affair (lots of heavy sexual talk nothing physical) is still an affair, is just as much infidelity and is just as damaging as a physical affair.
Two more articles:
Is It Cheating?
Is it just friends or infidelity?
Can I also suggest you post on the Betrayed Spouses Support to get their thoughts on your situation?
It may be that you don't want to know, and I can understand how difficult it would be to push forward with something like this in your situation. But you must want some kind of resolution or answers or you wouldn't have posted, right? You can hope he'll be honest with you someday, but my guess is as long as you're willing to let this ride he's not going to rock the boat and make life harder on himself.
~ cl-2nd_life"You can't control the length of your life,
but you can control the width and depth."
~ Author unknown
"Ignoring the facts
does not change the facts"
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