cheating? needs some honest input help..

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Registered: 12-06-2005
cheating? needs some honest input help..
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Tue, 12-27-2005 - 8:22am

Help need some honest advice..BF has been getting a lot of text and phone calls from a girl he used to mess around (before me) for the last week and a half. (When we started dating about a year ago she used to call and text all the time too but he said she stoped doing that and I did not notice their being any calls from her She calls private most of the time and also like 4 or 5 times an hour.) He said he saw her out about the time she started calling him and this was during the time that we were fighting. He did not hide it and told me she was calling and played some of the voicemails to me that she had left him. He told me he told her to stop texting and calling him but she still calls about a million times a day. He tells me he does not pick up her calls (especially never around me) but he does seem to know a lot about what is going on with her life for not talking to her ever. Example last nite (at 12:30am) she called in front of me from a private number he did not answer he played the message with her saying "Hi i was just thinking about you cant sleep I will be home tommorrow tommorrow nite and the next day because dont have a car call me when your not busy bye." I asked why she does not have a car and he said she got into a car accident in which I asked how did he know and he said she talks to his voicemail like it is him and she left it on a message. Know some messages this week had said she wants to see him, why is he not picking up the phone, and to get rid of GF for the nite. He is with me every nite and the only time he is not with me is while I am at work and he never gave me any reason to think he was cheating except for the phone calls. It is really begining to eurk me and it is getting under my skin in the worst way and I told him that. I am not insecure at all but my point is why would any women keep calling a man repeatedly everyday for over a week if he paid her no attention, did not answer her calls ever, and when he did he told her he has a girlfriend and to stop calling? What do you think? Is he cheating? or not? what is going on and how do I stop this?

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Registered: 03-26-2003
Tue, 12-27-2005 - 1:48pm

Hi Jrck123, I believe you posted this problem under another name on this board four days ago :


showed I be worried is there a problem?


There was a new answer posted to it last night, and coincidentally, I just finished agreeing with that new response before reading your new post.







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Edited 12/27/2005 2:35 pm ET by cl-2nd_life








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