Compromising about where we live?
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|Sun, 07-24-2011 - 9:19pm|
I need some help with an issue of compromise.
This winter, my boyfriend and I chose a plan--we'd move together to Utah for the summer and then back home to Wisconsin for the winter to save money for grad school. We were both on board. Then, we got to Utah and he accepted a year-long job without checking with me first (not maliciously--they said they wanted a year's commitment to the job in the interview and he thought he didn't have a different option). I rolled with it because I love the Salt Lake City area and didn't mind being there for a year.
The day we were about to sign a lease, his company called and said that they needed to transfer him to Nevada, and that he'd have to be there in two days to start. He learned this time, and said that he needed to talk to me first. I didn't want to leave him without a job, so I agreed to leave Utah. We chose the biggest nearby city (the job is in the middle of nowhere, so it was going to be a long drive, anyway). I assumed I'd be able to find things to do that I loved because it is a relatively large place.
It has been two months, and I have never been more miserable. Although this is the biggest city around, there are no opportunities to do what I love to do: choir, music theater, outdoor activities. I have tried SO hard to find things to do, but no luck. My boyfriend is gone into the wilderness with no phone/email communication for over two weeks of every month, so I'm alone. To add to that, I know absolutely no one and I work from home, so I go days without talking to anyone but store clerks and the receptionist at my gym. For a super-social person like me, this is incredibly difficult.