confuse?

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Registered: 04-29-2006
confuse?
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Sat, 04-29-2006 - 6:17pm
hey guys can you give me some advice:
I recently told my fiance that I needed a week off to workout some issue of my own JUST ONE WEEK. lately we been fighting alot about my insecurity issue. He got really upset with me for that suggestion. My intention wasnt to hurt him, I LOVE him very much. I just need some sol seaching and to clear my head. I explain it to him, He told me that i hurt his feeling and he doesn't know what going to happen when I get back he can't promise me anything. what should I do, I want a relationship with him very much but I also want to get myself straight out at the same time.
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In reply to: chinky06
Sat, 04-29-2006 - 6:36pm

A week doesn't seem at all unreasonable. But he may be thinking that it's a possible pre-curser to a breakup (which I guess is a possibility, right, or you wouldn't need a break), so perhaps that's why he's upset.

Do you really think you can work out whatever issue it is in a week?

Are you going to counseling to deal with your insecurity issue?

Sheri

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In reply to: chinky06
Sat, 04-29-2006 - 6:46pm
thank you for your reply: I dont'want to break up with him that the last thing I wanted to do I explain that to him too. A week is just to clear my head and to remember why we got together in the first place, and get a fresh start.. Yes i'm getting help, my first appointment is next week.
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In reply to: chinky06
Sun, 04-30-2006 - 11:41pm

Coming in late, to tell you that I agree completely with Sheri. A week is not too much to ask at all, and if you need time to sort through things, he should be absolutely willing to give that to you.


Good for you in seeing a therapist, it's a good move to make, it's the best thing you could have done.







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