confused by his actions/or non-actions as it were....
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|Thu, 06-07-2012 - 12:04pm|
Is it the same? He wants to spend the rest of his life with me, but won't get married right away?
Folks, please help me on this one... My guy and I have been engaged over a year. He keeps telling me he loves me and wants to spend the rest of his life with me. THEN, I get the "conditions" like he wants me to get rid of my cat, wants me to get rid of some stuff I have stored in garage, wants me to pay more of the bills (I just <finally> got a job after grad. and getting my BS, and it doesn't pay that well, so I will be looking for another one), sometimes I wonder why he even asked me to marry him??? (Should I ask him that?) I mean we could have co-habited and not been engaged leaving me wondering if he really wants to get married or not? He won't even talk about the planning of the wedding! I just want to elope and have a party later- not too much to ask, I'm thinkin (after all it IS a second wedding for each of us, and I already had that *big party* at my 1st wedding), but would like to know "SOMETHING", so I can get started on my dress (I'm a fashion designer/dressmaker), and with all this doubt he's cast, I can't get myself motivated to even start this major project! What is up with him? I understand the money thing, but eloping doesn't cost that much, and I have most everything I need to sew my dress... What could I tell him to ease his stress level?