A couple of questions
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| Sat, 01-06-2007 - 1:24am |
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I asked for his support on helping overcome being unaffectionate. I mentioned to him if I initiate holding his hand, maybe he could give me a squeeze letting me know he likes it or if I initiate a hug, maybe he could say "hey, this feels nice". However, he said that would be too hard on him to do this. I asked him why. He said, being affectionate should come naturally. He said he shouldn't have to work so hard in getting me to be more affectionate just to make him happy. That was his quote. Therefore, I was left shocked, confused and hurt.
Question #1:
How would you word it different if you were me?
Question #2:
How would you fill in the blank when you speak about yourself, keep the statements from you about you, not about him. . . sample and follow precisely: I feel ________ when ___________ happens.
What would some of your examples be?
Edited 1/6/2007 1:28 am ET by casey0201

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Yes, the *I* statement alone is far better than an accusation. But used in it's full context of problem solving, I don't believe that it will work with everyone.
My example of using the *I* statement in regards to housework will have no effect if my husband does not care how I feel. It would just be a waste of breath.
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