Da ex playing games!
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| Wed, 11-09-2005 - 3:17pm |
Now a days just about everyone has children. I even have kids and i am in a really good happy relationship with my man. He moved in with me and my girls and he has two kids of his own. 1 son is older in his teens hates his father, and the youngest son from another women well she won't allow him to see his son. Momma number 2 has 4 kids all from different fathers. When my man wants to see his son she won't let him because he doesn't want her anymore. I hate women like this. If a father pays his support and wants a relationship with his kids so let it be regardless of the hate between the two parents. My case my kids don't see their father cause he never wanted them. He was only into me and the kids were his excuse so i booted him for good out of their lives. The man never once bought a bag of diapers. I left him when i was 6 months pregnant with my second daughter and she is now 3 yrs old and my oldest is now 5yrs old. Now the ex is harrassing his aunt and she wants to beat the hell out of his ex. His whole family hates her she gave his family nothing but trouble from day one. She doesn't even bother her 3 other different baby daddies like she bothers my man. i stay out of it, he becomes so angry that i sit him down and talk to him trying to make him understand that as long as he pays his support and tries to let his son know what he is doing don't get angry. I told my man only pay her the $200 and nothing else. If he pays her anymore she will want more, and i be dam for that. I told him so what she lost her job thats not your problem as long as the child support you owe is paid everything else is her problem. I just can't stand sorry as women like this. My man has taken the responsibilty of being the stepfather to my girls and i told him if we split up and if he wants his relationship still with my girls i will give him that. for the simple fact that is who all my girls know and they call him dad. I wouldn't want to hurt my kids because of the relationship not working out.
I just needed to vent this off. But what is so funny my man has tried so much but he can't deal with her anymore and i told him as long as she doesn't get in his face or come to our house don't worry about nothing. Pay back will end up getting her in the long run bad karma always does.
Who is going through this type of stuff with the ex? I am my man best support, i talk to him openly about his situation give him advice coming from a women, he is also my friend. I completely stay out of it because i know i will snatch this female up. I tell him he has to take care of it and i have his back to the fullest. His sons don't know about me yet, the two boys don't even know about eachother that is how bad this whole situation is. She didn't want my man to see his oldest son and that is why he hates him. I told my man that is your fault for allowing a women to stand in between you and your son. I tell him to pick up the boys if he can spend the day with them i will stay away untill he is ready for them to meet me and my girls.
Well thank you for letting me vent it just bothers the hell out of me when people play games and the kids are the ones hurting.
flores

I agree that it's wrong to refuse to allow kids to see their fathers, it's a ploy some use to get back at their ex; unfortunately, all it does is hurt the child.
If your boyfriend's payments are set up through the state, he should also have state mandated visitation. If his ex's don't allow him to visit they can be taken to court and they will be directed by the judge not to interfere with visitation. Further violation will be seen as direct disobedience to the Court and there will be penalties; judges don't look kindly on people who ignore their orders.
He's entitled to see his kids and they're entitled to see their father. I agree that he shouldn't sit back and do nothing, but, as you know, it's his problem, his issue, his to deal with as he chooses. IMO, if he chooses to do nothing, he has no right to complain though.
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Sorry ~ I didn't answer your question!
I'm not in your situation, but I can understand how frustrating it would be to watch. I don't belive anyone here has the kinds of issues you're dealing with, but I'm sure they'll let you know if they do.
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Oh i know i already got the ppr work to file for court. But i want him to hire an attorney so he wouldn't have to pay her anymore then what he is already paying. The state will look at his wages and demand him to pay her $400 + a month. Which i think is unfair, that is why he will need his atty to fight and get his son at least 50% of the time to cut that price down. I told him what the consequences are if she plays these games. My kids are in the court system i ran it so bad against the sperm donor to the point he has a $40k warrant for his arrest for not paying me $626 a month for not even trying to be a father. But like i said its up to him and he isn't trying to go that route but i told him, he is dealing with a vengeful women and she doesn't care about your son. so he is saving up to hire a good atty, since i have a career in the legal field i know of a few good atty's. He does deserve to be with his son, he becomes upset when we are at the house together and he tells me he wishes both of his sons could be in the home with us too.
flores