Dancing with a friend

iVillage Member
Registered: 12-02-2010
Dancing with a friend
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Thu, 12-02-2010 - 11:49am

Hi, I'm new here and so I hope I'm posting in the right place.

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iVillage Member
Registered: 12-02-2010
Thu, 12-02-2010 - 12:17pm

Oh and I should mention that this is a guy she has known forever.

iVillage Member
Registered: 09-23-2009
Thu, 12-02-2010 - 5:32pm

I think you saw your wife in a new light--that she could also be desired by another man, and it was normal for you to feel amorous towards her after that experience.I think it's inappropriate to ask someone who is taken to slow dance with you so closely and intimately. I think that fast dancing with friends is appropriate, as long as it's not all night and as long as you're not ignoring your significant other.

If it were me, I would tell my significant other that I'd prefer that slow dancing

iVillage Member
Registered: 05-18-2009
Thu, 12-02-2010 - 5:45pm

I like blueorchid's response. I agree that your reaction is pretty normal in every respect, and that it's okay to tell her that it made you uncomfortable seeing her in an intimate position with another man. My guess is that she wouldn't enjoy seeing you like that with another woman (especially one you have admitted feelings for in the past).

iVillage Member
Registered: 12-02-2010
Thu, 12-02-2010 - 6:07pm

She never admitted having feelings for him before.

Community Leader
Registered: 05-14-2001
Fri, 12-03-2010 - 1:21am

Welcome to the board, Mwilldude ~

You're making perfect sense.


~ cl-2nd_life

cl-2nd_
iVillage Member
Registered: 12-02-2010
Fri, 12-03-2010 - 11:06am

I guess that in a way that sounds like it makes sense.

iVillage Member
Registered: 11-13-2009
Fri, 12-03-2010 - 1:26pm
<< Is there a way to talk privately on here about this? >>

Maybe you should try a sex board.

 

iVillage Member
Registered: 12-02-2010
Fri, 12-03-2010 - 1:38pm
Sex boards are not what I have in mind at all. Never mind. I'll find someone to talk to about this.
iVillage Member
Registered: 11-28-1999
Fri, 12-03-2010 - 8:01pm

If you try this, you will really be asking for trouble because she might enjoy the flirting too much and it might ruin your relationship.

iVillage Member
Registered: 11-13-2009
Fri, 12-03-2010 - 11:21pm
I find it suspicious that a man comes to a site geared towards women and asks to speak privately about sex, but I'll go along.

Ivillage has some sex boards that would probably help you out. If I recall correctly, there was one called Taboos and some of their discussions were like yours.

So there's no reason for you to be offended that I mentioned it.

 

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