DESIGNATED DRIVER ISSUE WITH MY BOYFRIEND
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|Thu, 05-02-2013 - 10:59pm|
I have been in an exclusive relationship for over a year. My SO is 12 years older than myself. We have a very good relationship - working out kinks here and there - but I do see this progressing to marriage. Whenever something bothers me, he is willing to discuss it and open to changing ways. He treats me with respect and love. He has a fairly high profile job in our community, so when he goes out on weekends, he likes to go to places a good distance from the area so he can enjoy himself and not be recognized. He was divorced over 10 years ago and definitely lived a bachelor's lifestyle. Lots of weekend drinking and women, engaged twice but neither marriage happened. I can see that I am different from the other women he has dated; most, if not all, he met through online dating services and they were mostly all relationships about sex and booze, or rather, sex as a result of a lot of drinking together. Upon reflection, he says they were meaningless relationships and he doesn't want that anymore.
However, he enjoys an arrangement that has developed since we have been dating. This is that when we go out on Friday nights, he drinks and I drive. We are going to a dinner tomorrow and I told him that I would like to be able to drink this time and he be the designated driver. I told him that, in fact, I think it's only fair that we alternate being the designated driver. This really threw him for a loop and he was quite uptight over it! He proposed that we both drink and take a cab home. I told him that ladies don't take cabs home from a bar ... that he should be able to control himself once in a while, let me drink and I should be able to rely on him to take care of me. I do not have much of a tolerance for alcohol - I can drink one beer and get a little giggly - so he thinks I should have one or two drinks and stop. He, on the other hand, has a very high alcohol tolerance, so he feels I should let him have his one night of the week to drink and have me drive home.
This discussion took place this evening. He sent a text when he got home that said he would agree to my proposal to alternate designated driver assignments because I mean more to him than alcohol. What do y'all think? And furthermore, do you agree or disagree about the cab issue?