Differences

iVillage Member
Registered: 08-03-2011
Differences
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Wed, 08-03-2011 - 12:26pm

Sorry for starting my first post with a problem but, I found this website exactly because I need to listen to a few opinions. I've dated

iVillage Member
Registered: 05-18-2009
In reply to: daca1973
Wed, 08-03-2011 - 2:03pm

1. It's okay to start your first post with a problem - Most people do

2. This conversation is about two years long, I didn't/can't read the whole thing

3. I have absolutely no context in which to take the conversation. I don't know who you are, who your ex-boyfriend is, or what you are fighting about.

I'm sorry but as an outsider with nothing to relate this to, I can't give you any really constructive input. It would be a lot easier if you phrased your question in terms of what the background is, what problems you're having, and how you feel about it. It's almost impossible for us to interpret a conversation over IM.

iVillage Member
Registered: 08-03-2011
In reply to: daca1973
Wed, 08-03-2011 - 4:02pm

Thank you for the reply. Actually the conversation happened today.

I understand what you say and I'll explain the situation better.

iVillage Member
Registered: 05-18-2009
In reply to: daca1973
Wed, 08-03-2011 - 4:48pm

I don't think you can make it work... I don't know how old he is but you are not an adult yet and this is not an adult relationship that you need to commit to for the rest of your life. You seem like a very cool chick but honestly you have so much time in the future to worry about relationships, why are you bothering with someone who is wasting your time? You only have so long to spend as a kid... I think you should take advantage of it without getting involved in serious relationships. I know this is not what you want to hear but I think breaking up was the best choice.

When I was 14 I had a similar relationship and I am SO glad it ended. It wasn't an "adult relationship" and it was really a waste of time.

iVillage Member
Registered: 08-03-2011
In reply to: daca1973
Wed, 08-03-2011 - 5:10pm
I was afraid you'd say that. God, I hate it when I'm right.

But thank you for taking the time.
Community Leader
Registered: 05-14-2001
In reply to: daca1973
Thu, 08-04-2011 - 1:22am

Welcome to the board, Daca1973 ~

I hate to say that I didn't finish your full first post either, but I did read fully half of it and I believe I got the core of what's going on.


~ cl-2nd_life

cl-2nd_
iVillage Member
Registered: 05-18-2009
In reply to: daca1973
Thu, 08-04-2011 - 8:09am

I thought she said she was 12, not 18?

Community Leader
Registered: 05-14-2001
In reply to: daca1973
Thu, 08-04-2011 - 9:50pm

I just went


~ cl-2nd_life

cl-2nd_
iVillage Member
Registered: 05-18-2009
In reply to: daca1973
Fri, 08-05-2011 - 8:42am

Ahh, I got confused by this sentence:
"i listen to metal since i'm 12"

I think the language confused me. I'm sorry, please disregard my advice!! Except for the part where I say "he's a waste of time" becuase at 18 a relationship should not be slowing down your life...