Different values

iVillage Member
Registered: 12-03-2006
Different values
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Fri, 05-13-2011 - 7:24pm

First, brief background on me, I’m 45, never married. Have a generally satisfactory career as a medical doctor and on track with my finances. Not good at investing but good at saving.

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Community Leader
Registered: 05-14-2001
Fri, 05-13-2011 - 10:26pm

Welcome to the board, White_satin ~

I think what his actions are telling you is that the trouble he has with his finances aren't caused by either ex-wife; they're a long standing behavior/choice issue.


~ cl-2nd_life

cl-2nd_
iVillage Member
Registered: 06-24-2008
Sat, 05-14-2011 - 12:34am

It can be so disheartening to find out someone you thought was a potential match is not one at all.

"The key to good decision making is not knowledge. It is understanding."
Malcolm Gladwell Blink

iVillage Member
Registered: 11-28-1999
Sat, 05-14-2011 - 9:11pm

ONe thing I thought of here is that if you did marry a guy significantly older than you, you should be prepared that you will have to keep working after he retires--and you will probably be supporting him.

iVillage Member
Registered: 02-15-2008
Sun, 05-15-2011 - 7:31am

I agree with what music said.

iVillage Member
Registered: 12-03-2006
Sun, 05-15-2011 - 9:02pm

Hi 2nd life and music lover,

Community Leader
Registered: 05-14-2001
Mon, 05-16-2011 - 1:04am

It may not have been about pride.


~ cl-2nd_life

cl-2nd_
iVillage Member
Registered: 12-03-2006
Mon, 05-16-2011 - 5:36pm

Community Leader
Registered: 05-14-2001
Wed, 05-18-2011 - 2:56am

Please feel free to use the board!


~ cl-2nd_life

cl-2nd_
iVillage Member
Registered: 12-03-2006
Thu, 05-26-2011 - 6:37pm

2nd life,

thank you for your support. I don't know if you can sympathize but I find it very hard to date right now. My heart just isn't in it. You'd think at 45 I'd hurry up and get out there but emotionally I'm just not there.

So, I've been doing things with my x-bf. Last sat went to a classical concert with him. This week I decided to call up a former co-worker who has been interested in me. He's been wanting to come visit me. He lives about 40 miles away. Anyway, we decided he could come last night. On the phone he said he wanted to sleep over. 40

Community Leader
Registered: 05-14-2001
Thu, 05-26-2011 - 11:02pm

White_satin - your first clue was when the guy asked to sleep over.


~ cl-2nd_life

cl-2nd_

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