do i have to much faith in my gf?
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|Fri, 03-28-2003 - 7:42pm|
April will make 8 months that I've been together with my current gf. If I could use one word to describe our relationship it would be "intense". Unlike any of my relationships b4 this one started out without any intentions on my part to be other than friends. I guess althought it was a year and a half since my last breakup I didn't feel good about "relationship" in general. I met my current gf (Terri) online and we talk mostly about everything including each other. For months b4 I woke up one day and she wasn't online for that dy if i remember right and I realised I was longing for her more than a friend. (we both work online). When I expressed to her what I felt she reciprocated the same thing. Still, we didn't talk about it to much but just keep growing till eventually the feeling were to great to hide by either of us.
I'm sure by now some of you might be saying (oh no an online relationship). Well, I would have also, but I wasn't in search of this love.. it happened like a beautiful act of destiny. Not to mention for the first 4 months of our interaction I (23) was almost bed ridden due to a severe accident (drunk driver hit me head on). She only had photos of what I look before the accident and since I did get a bad scar, loose two front teeth and broke various bones... I told her ALL of this very early annd in graphic terms. This is all part of why I never expected her to have any more feelings than friends for a brokenup guy. When she did it proved to me a lot about her character and when I finally sent her my photos she realise I made it worst than I was (not intentionally).
Afterwhich, we grew and after meeting for a few days in Miami in March we are to the point were now we are in a commited relationship. I can truly say that we havn't rush anything given the distance.. I live in the Caribbean and see in the US.
Simply stated she lives with her EX. Now it was hidden from me till shortly after she return from Miami I obtained her apt tel number via her mom cause I was dieing to talk to her and when I called he answered as "her bf". I nearly broke up with her over this as I went through almost the sae thing with last ex and I didn't want to be gullable again. Yet, she and her best friend convinced me that it was pltonic... she also said she hid it because she was scared and also that he is violent and has hit her b4. (voilet I belive because during my phone call with him he threated to find me where ever I was and cut me up lol). Anyway, after considering how the guy acted I did add up that she was scared to death of him. Yet, I told her she need to et him out of her apt, which she agreed but was scared of handling without upseting him, anyway with my help and advice she told him he had to go since according to her they were not having a relationship but her still loved her "obsesively" as in mentally disturbed obsessive. Yet, she told me she got him to talk rationally and he agreed to leave at the end of this month with was about 30 days from when she spoke with him.
My problem is... why does she have to hide now that I'm her gf if she told him 3 weeks ago about me and said he even ask why she loves me and other questions. I'm still told not to call her apartment or he will get upset and posibly violent. Even at this point I have just about total faith in her, I'm posting here because I want to know if i'm to trusting s in the last relationship this VERY same things of my gf have to hide me from so called ex happened. In that case he wasn't an ex. What about this case do you think the guy is psyco? Do you think it's platonic? Do you think maybe she's in so deep with a crazy guy that she was affried to tell me because she may think I would leave her? Am I to trusting?
I've tried to give u a full picture.. feel free to ask for more if nessary.
thanks in advance,
Edited 3/28/2003 9:41:04 PM ET by misterhayden