Facebook "Friends"

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Registered: 08-04-2011
Facebook "Friends"
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Wed, 09-21-2011 - 11:49am

After reading the last post I have a question about Facebook.

Do you think it is ok to have ex's and/or single opposite sex coworkers as "friends" on Facebook?

I will say that my BF works in the property management industry so naturally he works with lots of young girls who work at these apartment communities and lease apartments.

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Registered: 11-28-1999
Wed, 09-21-2011 - 12:15pm

You don't say how old your DH is--is he in his 20's also?

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Registered: 04-16-2008
Wed, 09-21-2011 - 12:24pm
How old is he that he's friending "young single little 25 year olds" ? I wouldn't be comfortable with all these young 25 year old girls having his cell no. either, unless you know these calls are strictly business calls he;s getting from them.
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Registered: 08-04-2011
Wed, 09-21-2011 - 1:36pm

He just turned 30.

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Registered: 03-16-2007
Wed, 09-21-2011 - 2:00pm

I think this is probably just your insecurity talking.

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Registered: 08-04-2011
Wed, 09-21-2011 - 2:07pm

:) Thanks!

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Registered: 04-16-2008
Wed, 09-21-2011 - 7:32pm

Yeah, with the 20 somethings they pretty much friend anyone. My sons (24 &27) get friends request from people they barely knew in high school still. They may have had one class with them in freshman yr. and just vaguely remember them from back then .But I guess they think it's rude not to friend someone who asks or something. Seems to me it's more of a popularity contest

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Registered: 05-18-2009
Wed, 09-21-2011 - 9:48pm

My SO has facebook friends that are younger female coworkers. I don't feel threatened. Facebook is basically a collection of anyone you've ever met before.

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Registered: 05-14-2001
Thu, 09-22-2011 - 1:23am

Welcome back, Chattiecutie ~

I will say that I have both ex's and single co-workers as facebook friends.


~ cl-2nd_life

cl-2nd_
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Thu, 09-22-2011 - 11:40am

I just get a little insecure at times. I needed to hear other opinions and get some reassurance even though I already knew in my rational mind it was no big deal.

On the previous issue I'll explain my take on that a little. I re-read the book Men Are from Mars... and the section that talks about men going in their “caves” really hits the nail on the head of how things get started with us. It is honestly as simple as that, and I'm working on understanding his side of things. Not sure anyone has read the book, but it makes so much sense to me and explains our situation. He gets in a mood or goes into his “cave” and instead of just letting him be, I assume something is wrong or I did something to upset him. Well of course he doesn't want to talk so I get my feelings hurt, then when he comes to me I'm upset and don't talk to him. Anyway, you get the gist of things. That is what happened with the whole texting question and why we repeat the same cycle. I also think we need to re-discover ourselves again. We are that couple who does everything together... EVERYTHING. I think it's better for the relationship to get out and do things independently of one another. He can't be the sole source of my happiness and I can't be his. :) LOL so I gave myself therapeutic advise and I'm working on this to have a better happy healthy relationship.