FACEBOOK QUESTION/Situation - kind of long
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|Mon, 11-28-2011 - 7:03pm|
Hello - male newbie to the board. I have lurked but this is my first post.
Facebook - I am trying to do some interpretation here of my spouses actions. Let me know what you think:
So some point last year an ex-girlfriend of mine reached out to me on Facebook. Some history/background: We were good friends before we decided to make it official. In fact, I was 17 and she was 16 (so many moons ago about 20 years ago). We were each others FIRST in the sexual arena and we broke up very soon afterwards and lost touch.
So back to last year, she found me on Facebook and "friended me". Shortky afterwards, she sent me a message with her phone number. She lives in Atlanta and I live in the Los Angeles area. She is from California and was coming home to visit and wanted to have lunch. First off, I didn't think anything of accepting her friend request or her request to have lunch. I have mu status lists that I am married, I have family pictures up too. In fact I didn't even reply. At somepoint, my wife was on my Facebook page and saw the message and the phone number. She busts into the room and immediately starts going through my phone. She didn't say what she was doing but I knew what that was all about. We got into an argument about me accepting the friend request from an "ex" and she insisted that she wanted to meet with me because she still wanted me. My wife then goes on to say if that wasn't the case, she would have invited us BOTH. I thought that was nonsense and just "unfriended her". Now my wife did not tell me to do so, but I knew it would be a sore spot that would take forever to go away.
So that brings me to the present. My wife also has a Facebook page and earlier this year, one of her exes found her and she accepted his friend request. Of course she didn't tell me until after she accepted. They talked on Facebook by message back and forth - no big deal, I didn't make anything of it until I came across a couple of messages that were "deleted". I kind of saw them by accident - we have one shared email account that she uses more than I do. I found a Facebook email that said she had a message from him. Actually there were a couple and that's how knew they were talking but it seems they even "IMing" on Facebook. At one point they spoke about how old they were and she remarked that both still looked good which to me is compliment to him. I thought, "hhhmmm" that is interesting.