feeling guilty but also angry
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|Thu, 09-16-2010 - 9:39am|
This probably seems like a really superficial problem compared to a lot of other problems, and it started out really small but now it's become a serious issue.
Basically my boyfriend of four years is not as hygienic as I would like him to be. He is kind of the crunchy granola type, so I think that has something to do with it. He does not shower daily - instead probably every three days. For some people this probably wouldn't be a problem, but he is very active. He bikes, runs, walks and rock climbs on a regular basis, so he's sweating often. He also refuses to use deodorant on a regular basis (only when I ask him to) and as such the smell can get pretty bad. It's gotten bad enough that a mutual friend of ours has commented on it more than once. He will wear the same shirt (that he sweated in the day before) for several days, which makes it even worse. When I ask him to use deodorant or change his shirt, he will, but I really, really, really hate asking every single day. I hate nagging him to shower. He gets annoyed and it makes me feel like a bad person.
Also, his dental hygiene leaves much to be desired. He has not been to the dentist in probably three or four years. He brushes regularly and flosses semi-regularly, but despite this his teeth are yellowing and his breath is often bad. I tried the subtle hints - offering him gum or a mint. He refuses them. Then I tried