Feeling smothered and exhausted

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Registered: 02-02-2012
Feeling smothered and exhausted
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Tue, 03-27-2012 - 4:32pm

I'm fairly new on here but just need to vent a bit and hopefully get some advice about this. I moved in with my boyfriend a few months ago, after living

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Registered: 11-28-1999
Tue, 03-27-2012 - 4:46pm

I assume that you used to visit him at his apt. before you moved in--so did he basically live in a very messy place before?

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Registered: 04-16-2008
Wed, 03-28-2012 - 1:33am
So where did he live before you moved in together? I'm thinking maybe at home with mom who may have picked up after him and did all the housework and laundry.
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Registered: 12-27-2004
Wed, 03-28-2012 - 4:32pm

Y'all may remember Angel_grrl from her previous posts on the Working On Your Relationship board:

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Registered: 05-20-2009
Sat, 03-31-2012 - 4:48am

You moved in together because things were perfect???

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Registered: 12-22-2007
Sun, 04-01-2012 - 8:31pm

>>I just don't get why he doesn't want to take responsibility for anything besides just paying his portion of the bills<<

Because it's simply not important to him.

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Registered: 05-18-2009
Mon, 04-02-2012 - 8:49am

So you knew he had a messy lifestyle but you believed him when he told you he'd change for you? ...Really? You could have said "ok, prove that you can have a habitable space for six months and I'll consider moving in"...

What does it matter that he's "adorable"? Since when did "adorable" make a harmonious domestic partner? Of course you care for him. But he's not compatible with you. These aren't minor things.

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Registered: 02-02-2012
Wed, 04-11-2012 - 4:59pm

WOW! So much advice!! It seems the problems have been solved, and I didn't really have to do anything besides remind him that he mentioned before me moved in together that

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Registered: 12-22-2007
Wed, 04-11-2012 - 8:24pm

Angel, I'm glad to hear he's picked up his end of the bargain.