Flirting - What is acceptable?
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|Wed, 03-14-2012 - 12:07pm|
My boyfriend and I have been together for 3 years.
He has many friends that are girls. This is what most of our previous problems have been around. Mainly that I don’t know any of these girl friends and that he’s quite flirty. I don’t have a problem with flirting. I think it’s healthy and normal and keeps you sane, I just don’t like when it crosses certain boundaries. And I also don’t like that I don’t know any of his friends that are girls that he is flirty with.
A few months back, one of my bf’s girl friends made a comment on his facebook which lead to just a silly funny discussion of them just kidding around, one of his guy friends made a comment “I sense a lot of sexual tension here” on their discussion. I thought this was a little inappropriate but I just let it be.
A few days ago, the exact situation happened, a silly joking around discussion on facebook between the two and the same guy friend says “get a room”.
A little history:
- I once found pics of when he was gone out of town for a vacation with his friends, he was with this same girl in the pool hanging off of her drunk. I was a little upset because to me it seemed like he didn’t want me to see these pics but I just let it be. He assured me that she was just a friend with him and all of his other friends!
- I them saw that he had sent her a heart in the middle of the night while he was out partying with his friends. Again, he was like shes just a friend. When I send you a heart it means something completely different than when I send it to my other girl friends.
This is not exclusive to just one girl. Things like this have happened many time with other girls.
I know they’re just friends. I KNOW that he would never do anything and that it would not go beyond flirting and friendship. I know that. But some of the actions still bug me. I’m not sure why. I guess in my point of view, some of the flirting is beyond what is acceptable when your in a relationship.