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|Fri, 09-14-2012 - 5:44pm|
Good night! I would like your´re opinion on the following subject. I have been together with my boyfriend for 8 years and we have a baby of 6 months. During our relationship we had 3 our 4 major discussions because of his behavior. I found out that he would chat with women in the net and gave then his phone number and text them. In the firsts discussions I confronted him and told him what I felt and that this was a wrong behavior. He agreed with me and told me he never cheated on me and that it was just talking. Said he would never do it again. After a while I saw that he kept on doing it again on the net and that the testing continued. I did´t told him anything because I would have to admit that I was spying. I couldn't also see what he would say to this women, so I let things go along. I admit that if I idiot spy on him I wouldn't suspect on him because he's always at home or working and doesn't have much time to have encounters. A month ago I came home and opened his PC and saw his facebook page opened. He forgot to log out. I went to snoop his messages and found messages with women that he met on the net. He would say to them things like I would like to make you a massage, I'm going to phone you, and other flirting things. I was crushed. All the fears I had came alive. I immediatly phoned him and said to him to come home because I neded to talk to him. He came and I said to him what were this messages, what a real was going on. He was surprised and didn't said nothing. I said our marriage was over because this was cheating and he had lyed to me after saying he would never do that again. I asked why he did this. He said that maybe he had a problem, a fixation. I said that this was the end of our marriage. He saw that I was serious and tried to ask me for forgiveness. I said I couldn't accept this. Then he said he would kill himself because he didn't want to break up with me and leave his son. I stoped him and he cryed a lot. That night we didn't talked more. In the following days we didnt talked much. I wanted to think about leaving or not. He said to me that he would never do this again and that he didn't cheated on me. I didn't spoke to him for a week. After that time I decided to forgive him for the behalf of my son and because I belived that he would stop and that nothing happened phisically. What are your opinions? Do you believe he's going to stop?