forgetful partners

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Registered: 10-17-2010
forgetful partners
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Wed, 01-18-2012 - 12:31pm

Does anyone else have a very forgetful partner? My husband is a lovely guy but he is sooo forgetful that it drives me crazy.

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Registered: 05-18-2009
Wed, 01-18-2012 - 12:59pm

My SO would forget his own name if he didn't have to write it every day. I feel your pain.

I don't think he's doing this on purpose, but he's not really listening to you. Do you talk a lot? Most men I know aren't able to store that much short-term information.

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Registered: 11-28-1999
Wed, 01-18-2012 - 3:42pm

There are various causes for memory problems and since you say he is like this w/ everybody, not just you, it is likely there is something wrong w/ him.

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Registered: 10-17-2010
Wed, 01-18-2012 - 4:32pm

I just looked at the symptoms for ADHD and he has about 90% of the symptoms. What do I do? If i said anything to him, he would just disregard it, I just know it.

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Registered: 12-22-2007
Wed, 01-18-2012 - 4:37pm

The causes could be a combination of things.

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Registered: 05-18-2009
Wed, 01-18-2012 - 5:38pm

"Of course, none of this will help him remember the wood when he goes downstairs....."

Maybe if you said "If you go down and get me some wood from downstairs, then when you get back, I'll 'go downstairs' and get YOUR wood."

...

Worth a shot

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Registered: 12-22-2007
Wed, 01-18-2012 - 11:34pm

Sorry Sunny, but I take a dim view of those who disregard how their negative behaviours/mental health effect others.

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Registered: 10-17-2010
Thu, 01-19-2012 - 8:19am

No he is not lazy at all, he works 10 hours everyday, plays footbal 3 times a week, and we always do things together on the weekend. He handles all the finane stuff and he is very good at it including paying the bills. He also helps around the house, not much but he tries. Things that he forgets are usually small things so that's why I thought maybe he is just not listening. I do not talk much and I notice thate sometimes even when other people are talking to him, he kind of tunes out.

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Registered: 10-17-2010
Thu, 01-19-2012 - 8:27am

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Registered: 12-04-2011
Sun, 01-22-2012 - 10:04pm

You need to ask his family if there is anyone who has alzheimers. It is possible he could have it. I don't know how old he is, you never mentioned his age. Some things are ok as far as forgetfulness. My hubby does it too. Some important things however, like your tutoring, should be something he should remember.

Does your husband have a very stressful job? How is homelife? If that is very stressful, it can make people forget things. Get your husband checked out.

Your husband should carry a calendar or look on one on his cell phone to check for important to-do's and dates that you can put in there. He can then check it (hopefully he won't forget?) You can have an alarm sound for sometime during the day or maybe more than once, so he is alerted to check for things. Send him a text message if you want. I hope things get better!

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Registered: 10-17-2010
Mon, 01-23-2012 - 12:48am

My husband is only 29 and as far as we know no one in his family has Alzeimers. I am slowly learning how to deal with it and reminding him. To my surprise, this morning he asked me if I want the chocolate croissant from the bakery and he bought it for me so after more than 10 days, he finally remembered even though he goes to the bakery every morning.