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Registered: 01-28-2010
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Thu, 01-28-2010 - 1:06pm
Just wondering if just because you are in a relationship or married does that mean you have to give up your friends and only do things with your significant other?? Because according to my husband you do and Im trying to reason with him that its okay to have some "girl" time every now and then and hes saying that married women dont do that stuff.
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Registered: 05-04-2007
In reply to: celestial71
Thu, 01-28-2010 - 3:59pm

Can't even go out with other WOMEN!!!???!


That's crazy.


I could see saying no to going out with guy friends, one on one, that is too much like a date.


But not "allowed" to go out with the girls, that's too much.


I don't know what to tell you though. Anything I would say would pretty much be "you're a looney, I'm going out, bye" or "you're not the boss of me"


Where is he from? What

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Registered: 09-06-2007
In reply to: celestial71
Thu, 01-28-2010 - 8:19pm

What are you and your girlfriends wanting to go do that he doesn't like?

It could either be he doesn't think married women should do anything with girlfriends (which is by the way absurd and controlling)...

Or he doesn't like what you are doing specifically i.e.going to male strip clubs or something and feels married women shouldn't be doing that.

So give us more info. What is your "girl time" that he doesn't like?

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Registered: 04-16-2008
In reply to: celestial71
Fri, 01-29-2010 - 12:06am
That's what I was thinking. Is going out with the girls going to a movie and/or going to the mall shopping OR is it going bar hopping till 2 a.m.? That may make a big difference in his not wanting her to go out with her GFS.
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Registered: 03-26-2003
In reply to: celestial71
Fri, 01-29-2010 - 2:40am
Welcome to the board, Celestial71 ~

Like the others, I'm hoping you'll give us more information about your situation. I also have a few questions to add to the ones that have already been posed to you:

* Did he have a problem with you seeing your girlfriends before you married?
* Does he go out with his guy friends?
* How long have you been married?
* Could this be a cultural issue?

Thanks in advance for your answers, I'll be checking back for them!










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