he doesnt want to get married? now what?
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|Mon, 04-22-2013 - 8:09pm|
Hey my boyfriend and I have been together over two years we have lived together for one. Lately a lot of people we know are getting engaged some have been together less than us and most of them are younger then us. When I ask him if he wants to ger married he says no. When I pry futher because I am not happy with a simple no. He says he doesnt know if he wants to get married but it is not something he is thinking about right now. I am really confused because i feel like after two years he should know if he wants to marry me and I think the thing is he doesnt want to get married ever. Or he does not have that feeling with me that makes him think shes the person I want to marry. He told me that he has reservations about marraige because so many of them fail. I feel like if you marry the right person and are willing to work on problems when they arise, and do not cheat marraige can work. I want to get married and have a family but I do not think it will happen with my current boyfriend. The thing is I'm scared to leave. I feel some comfortable here. I like having my own place. If I leave I have to move back home because I cannot aford to live on my own. I'm dont even know how to make the first step. How do I even tell him I'm leaving? I dont want it to feel like an altimatum. I'm not getting what I want and i feel like I will never. I also dont want to make the wrong decision. I feel like what if he is just confused and I move out and it could have changed. I'm also scared because I lost my Dad in December and my boyfriend was there for the whole thing. I feel like he understands me and lets me be upset and everything that comes with a loss. I'm so scared to be single and alone, and afraid I will never meet anyone. My best friend just got engaged and although I am happy for her. I am sad for myself because it makes me realize what I might never have. What would you do in this situation? if you choose to leave how do you go about it?