He Spends Too Much!!!!
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|Mon, 12-21-2009 - 4:16pm|
Ok, i'll cut right to it. Almost a year ago my SO cheated on me with a co-worker. Let me rephrase that. It was almost a year ago that I found out. It was probably about two years ago that he did the cheating. I still don't know the exact time frame as he never really got specific. Well I stayed, I know dumb me, but I had my reasons. So, now I suffer the consequences.
Problem is, he has a new work schedule, he works from home, and that leaves him with the whole day to do nothing or something. I guess that is when I started paying more attention to finances. I'm the one that organizes are finances, but we have seperate bank accounts. We each have designated bills to pay throughout the month. He makes more than I do, but always ends up with less than I do within a couple of days. In the past I have taken peeks at prior purchases, but nothing looks out of the ordinary. He has his habits that really cost a lot. So i've never really found anything, but now with this schedule change and him having nothing to do in the day I can't help but feel that his money spending has something to do with him being off during the day and of course due to his past i'm going to have the worst thoughts.
Now, my issue is that like I said we have seperate accounts. He doesn't question my expenditures because he knows I don't spend. I'm a saver. I only spend on bills and grocerys and every now and then take-out. I don't do the nails or feet or hair things or massages. I'm a simple girl. So he knows he doesn't have to questions. I on the other know he spends a lot to begin with on his habits, but it still doesn't add up. So what do I do? Is it my right to say hey where is your money going?
I kind of feel wrong asking where his own hard working money is going, but on the other hand I see it as we aren't getting any younger and one day we will want kids, I know he already does, and how does he expect to spend like that and not worry about us as a family. Does that make sense? I know we don't have kids now and its just us but I feel like he's spending as if he's single. Even though it's his money, he's not single and he should be thinking about us and our future if he still wants it.
Am I wrong to question his spending? What do I say or do? Or should I just keep it as it