He won't propose!

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Registered: 06-15-2003
He won't propose!
Sun, 06-15-2003 - 1:25pm
Hi everyone, I would really appreciate some advice. I'm 24 and have been with my boyfriend, who's 27, for 3 years. We bought a house after dating for less than a year, and have been living together ever since.

I love him very much and am ready to get engaged. He says he's not ready, yet expects me to stay. Marriage is not a topic we can even discuss, yet I feel like I've been "auditoning" for the part of his wife for long enough.

He works 60 hours a week, and goes out drinking with friends almost every weekend. He invites me, knowing I'll say no due to work commitments. I feel like I'm always alone, yet I'm terrified of leaving him. I keep thinking that if we get engaged, he'll be inspired to settle down. He gives me just enough love and affection to keep me hanging on to our relationship. I'm still in school and can't afford to move out.

How long do I wait for him to grow up and appreciate me? Thanks