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Mon, 04-03-2006 - 2:40pm
Ok it has been two weeks and a day since i last talked to my so called. The day after the comotion. Well i knew me not calling would start something. As of tuesday he started calling his step sis who is my best friend, 3 days of calling and they were suppost to do dinner sunday. he has always talked to her about us she has always helped us. Well as of the 1st day he called and talked to her his best friend started calling me again. I am not answering but he called everday except for 2. Now he isnt leaving vm, but 2 days he called when my so called should have been home. We he talked to his sister and i was brought up. She asked if he had talke dto me. He said you were there for the conversation, no she hasnt called me in two weeks. She said that he was messed up adn being a jerk and that is why she hung up on him that day. Well he said there is more to teh story, but he told her he doesnt want her involved. Now the guy who started the mess was there whne this phone call went on. They were suppost to do dinner they talked in the mid day sunday, but he never followed thru. She told him i am not calling becuz he complains i call too much and that i love him but he needs to get his stuff straight. So i told her if they talk again all i want asked is were i stand with him. Are we gonna be friends, bootycall or have a future. But she said she got played for info on me. So i am still not calling or answering to the friend.
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In reply to: cherry0125
Mon, 04-03-2006 - 2:55pm

Cherry, two weeks ago you posted friday part 2, which








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In reply to: cherry0125
Mon, 04-03-2006 - 3:03pm

Well See Last Night One Of My So Called Bf Friends Called Me And We Were Talking About Things. He Tells Me That Lately That My So Called Has Been A Regular At The Strip Club And Has One Chick That He Has Been Paying For Oral Sex. And So On....

Ok Now This Came From One Of His Friends. Now The Other Friend That I Am Close To Goes With This Guy To The Club All The Time And Says My Man Stays Home. Plus This Other Friend Likes Me Alot. He Thinks He Is 2nd In Line For Me. Now He Has Never Said Anything Of The Sort.

Also The Friend Who Told Me This Told Me I Couldnt Tell My Man Becuz He Would Never Talk To Him Again. Also This Kid Gave Me Instances That Before He Said He Had To Wait On Him Becuz He Was Home Sleeping With A Headache And Now Says He Was At The Club.

I Am Discusted If This Is True, I Dont Know What To Do Other Then Hire Someone To Find Out For Sure. Do I Ask The Friend That Likes Me. I Would Think He Would Have Told Me By Now.. Please Omb Help

then part 2

Ok well i talked to his friend friday and he said that they are friends and that the other stuff is not true. Well man so called called me yelling about it. Man i believed it. So we fought 3 calls and then it was no more us, good by.. Well two hours later he called me 18 times and text me. He went out looking for me. I didnt make any notition. Well Sat i ran into my co called. He said that they are just friends, what i cant have friends. I explained why i was mad. He said teh friend wants me. I told him to wake up on us, He said look at teh living situation. I said i know you have nothing wake up. He said they are just friends, that is why he can text her or go to lunch. Kept saying it like we were more then friends. I asked what he wanted and he said i dont know other then i dont want to loose you, or i wouldnt have blown up. But there is were i am like ok. He doesnt want to loose me or he wouldnt have called in the 1st place, and when we were done he wouldnt have called back 18 times and text me.

His friend said that he was going crazy calling me and me not answering he thought he lost me. His friend said to wake up. He wants me but right now he cant and wont due to living situation..

But when I asked what he wants in the future he says I don’t know. But I guess I am in it.,

so i am backing off from everyone right now

then today

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In reply to: cherry0125
Tue, 04-04-2006 - 2:12am

Sorry, I couldn't understand your situation very clearly. I got lost in which "friend" was "the friend" and which was "the other friend" and which one you meant when you just said "friend". I don't know who "man" is (unless it's your s/o?). I don't understand why you'd automatically believe the negative stories unless you already had reason to suspect or otherwise already believed something was going on. If that's the case, it would be important to explain what it is that caused you to be suspicious. I also don't understand why your s/o knows about this (if that's the case).


I'm sorry, I'm sure you're upset and I'm sure that's the reason your post is written as it is, but it's very hard to read and understand, it kind of rambles without a much detail, which makes it hard to read and understand. Hope you'll post a more detailed version so we can better understand!







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