help!!

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Registered: 03-27-2006
help!!
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Mon, 03-27-2006 - 11:12pm
my husband and i have been married for 5 years now
and he ejaculates too quick,
does anyone have any advice instead
of seeing a doctor?
thanks

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Registered: 03-26-2003
In reply to: spicyed06
Tue, 03-28-2006 - 12:13am

Welcome to the board, Spicyed06 ~


A few important questions first:


Why is seeing a doctor not an option? Has he always had this problem or is this something new?










~ cl-2nd_life

"Experience is what you get
when you don't get what you want."

~ Author unknown








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Registered: 10-13-2004
In reply to: spicyed06
Tue, 03-28-2006 - 12:44am

just one more question to follow cl-2nd life's....

How quick is too quick? Are we talking within two or three minutes?

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iVillage Member
Registered: 03-25-2003
In reply to: spicyed06
Tue, 03-28-2006 - 10:15am

I'd also like to know age of your DH.

Jen

iVillage Member
Registered: 08-04-2003
In reply to: spicyed06
Tue, 03-28-2006 - 2:23pm

Try posting on the 'Let's talk about sex' support board here at iVillage.

Practice with manual stimulation to get him to last longer, gauge when he's close and then back off, then start again.




Edited 3/28/2006 3:23 pm ET by itwinflame


Carrie

iVillage Member
Registered: 03-27-2006
In reply to: spicyed06
Wed, 03-29-2006 - 9:33pm
Seeing a doc is important, he just refuses to go. It is a guy thing. Your quote really made me think, you know all that really matters is that i am happy. I am. Everyone wants something to wish for. I guess that is my wish. Thank you for your advice :)
iVillage Member
Registered: 03-27-2006
In reply to: spicyed06
Wed, 03-29-2006 - 9:39pm
29, do you think that has something to do with it?
is this something that can be fixed? what is dh?
thanks
iVillage Member
Registered: 08-04-2003
In reply to: spicyed06
Wed, 03-29-2006 - 10:26pm
dh = dear husband


Carrie

iVillage Member
Registered: 03-26-2003
In reply to: spicyed06
Thu, 03-30-2006 - 1:23am

Oh my, Spicyed, being dissatisfied with the sexual relationship you have with your husband is quite a lot to be dissatisfied with. And just *accepting* that, is giving up quite a lot. I don't know anyone who would be able to be happy in a situation like that, though I'm sure there are plenty who don't care about sex; obviously if you were one of them, you wouldn't have posted because it wouldn't be a problem. Sexual satisfaction is quite a lot to expect to just give up on.


My quote isn't about giving up, it's about learning from mistakes you've made. The idea that you should just resolve to accept a situation without looking for resolutions and doing what you can to improve the situation isn't acceptable at all to me.


You've left quite a few questions unanswered, we can't possibly offer you any suggestions if you aren't willing to help us. But if you're willing to just give up in this and accept it, I'm very sorry for you.







~ cl-2nd_life

"Experience is what you get
when you don't get what you want."

~ Author unknown



Edited 3/30/2006 2:26 am ET by cl-2nd_life








"Ignoring the facts
does not change the facts"
iVillage Member
Registered: 03-25-2003
In reply to: spicyed06
Thu, 03-30-2006 - 9:56am

Spicy,

If he were younger than I would think his age had something more to do with it.

OKay, I'll finally spit out the questions that really need answered.

Is he "coming" way quickly or is it just before you get anywhere too? Because there are ways around that. Even if you are more prudish like me, lol. :)

Jen

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Registered: 03-26-2003
In reply to: spicyed06
Thu, 03-30-2006 - 10:50am
That's one of the questions Aisha asked her.








"Ignoring the facts
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