Help, just engaged and confused!!

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Registered: 09-13-2006
Help, just engaged and confused!!
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Wed, 09-13-2006 - 9:24am
I have been with my boyfriend for 11 months now, and he proposed last thursday, and I said yes I love him very much. But Im beginning to believe we are not compatible. We have 2 totally different careers, Im a tax accountant, and he is in retail management, we work different hours, which makes it very hard. I make significantly more money and the only one with good credit, so everything is in my name, our apartment and furniture, and sometimes i do have resentment towards him. We fight more and more often, and I cant do it. I feel trapped, we have 9 months on our lease, I just had to buy a car i cant afford so he could have my car that's paid for. Which is something i said i would never do. So if we break up I'm screwed. I don't know what to do, he is giving me the silent treatment, how mature he is freaking 30! I on the other hand am only 24. He is a great guy, and would do anything for me, I just dont know if I can do it anymore. Should we try to work it out? Counseling? Any ideas???
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Registered: 12-31-2004
Wed, 09-13-2006 - 9:55am

Here's the thing:

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Registered: 03-26-2003
Sun, 09-17-2006 - 10:15pm
Compromising what you feel is right for yourself isn't good. Feeling trapped isn't good. And neither of those feelings are things you should feel about your engagement. You recognize many differences that will cause problems, and are not how you want a relationship to be. It sounds to me like your gut is telling you pretty loudly what you know deep down already.


I will also say that at the age of 24 there are many changes yet to come. Making a life decision at this point will very likely end in regret as when those changes come you'll find what was right for you at 24 isn't at all what is right for you.


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