HELP PLEASE

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Registered: 04-07-2003
HELP PLEASE
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Thu, 05-15-2003 - 9:47am
I have been dating my boyfriend for 3 months. In the beginning we spent at leats 3 nights a week togerther (he works a lot and lives 15 min away w/ a dog) Latley we havent been spending that much time together. He says over once durinh the week and once on the weekend- claiming he has to be home for his dog when I always tell him the dog can stay here. Last night I asked him to stay over and he declined my offer and say he can only stay sat because work/his dog yada yada yada...WE are not dating anyone else and I know he is not with anyone else cuz we speak every single night beofre we go to bed. He has told me in the past he is kinda a "LONER" and likes his alonetime.....this really bothers me because I am not ready to walk away but I feel like I will be nagging him if i start complaining!!!!!!!!!! PLEASE HELP
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Registered: 04-14-2003
In reply to: pucklove
Thu, 05-15-2003 - 10:03am
I totally understand what you are going through. In the beginning of any relationship people spend a lot of time together and after a while it lessens. You are still in a fairly new relationship and it's hard when you want to see someone but, they are not making the time. I would try to speak to him about how you feel. It's going to be an awkward situation but, try explaining to him that you really care about him and would like to see him more. That wouldn't be "nagging" as you are afraid to convey to him. If he isn't going to give you what you want you might have to consider ending the realtionship. In good relationships people are on the same wave lenght of what they want and need out of the relationship. It's the hardest thing to do to end something not bc you don't care but, bc they aren't giving you what you need. I was just in the same boat. I was tired of "waiting around" for him and decided that I need more and deserve better and to tell you the truth it hurt both him and I. I have since met someone that wants to the same things I do and I am a lot happier for it. Good luck!!!

rye