Help--- sexless marriage... kind of
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|Thu, 08-23-2012 - 11:20pm|
I'm not sure really where to start. My husband and I will be married 5 years and we've had our share of ups and downs. We have 2 children 3 years old and 1 month old. Before I got pregnant with our second we were having major issues. A lot had to do with him. I don't feel the "attraction" as I feel a wife should. My husband has just let himself go and that bothers me. He has let his weight get out of hand and his hygiene. And he has turned into one of those men that say its the "wife responsibility" to "please him". But I refuse with his bad hygiene. I've tried talking to him but it just leads to large blow ups. He says when I talk to him I talk to him as if he is a kid. But to me with bad hygiene (not taking showers, not brushing teeth, heck barely wiping his butt!) that's acting like a 2 year old! He gets better for a week and then back to the lazy bad hygiene.
Well since I wont let myself be with him intimately I've been taking care of things on my own with toys. But if he finds out that I fulfill my needs myself and not with him its going to hurt him. But I don't know what else to do....