He's losing interest?

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Registered: 12-31-1969
He's losing interest?
Sat, 09-15-2012 - 11:30am
Ok so in my school, relationships arent allowed but me and my boyfriend, both 17, dated secretly. We are together for about a year and a half before we got caught by our teachers and were forced to break up. However we only faked the breakup and still texted each other daily. That happened in july. We are really serious about each other and even have thoughts on marrying each other in future. But recently, he started avoiding talking to me and all, claiming that he was busy or his phone had problems. Whenever i told him i love him, he just responds with a okay. He no longer take interest into the things i do.. And i feel like he's a stranger again, i dont know him anymore. Is he losing interest in me or am i just overreacting? Please tell me what to do.
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Registered: 12-05-2010
Sun, 09-16-2012 - 12:00pm


Hi. It's clear he wants to move on. It may not even be about you. If you go to a school with a "no dating'' rule, there could be religious issues involved--and guilt. I am betting you both attend religious school(s). Family members might make him feel he is on the way to major sins by continuing with you.

Anyway, there will very likely be other prospects in the forseeable future, particularly after you graduate next year.

P.S. I wouldn't attend a college with restrictions about dating.

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Registered: 12-05-2006
Sat, 09-15-2012 - 12:32pm

At 17 years old or 17 months old, we know the signs of disinterest so you asking is a bit redundant. Of course he has lost interest in you.

What you need to do is adjust your interest (genuinely, not just outwardly) level to match his so that you don't go on torturing yourself.