He's sooooo negative!!!
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| Thu, 06-29-2006 - 8:24am |
He's driving me crazy!!! We move this week into OUR new home. The first time in my life I've even owned a home, and to be quite honest really ever had a permanent home. I'm so excited, it's crazy....have been for weeks now.
And him - he's freakin miserable. He's stressed about all the running around, the banking etc...HATES packing. Is now mad at the rain...just angry about everything. I don't understand it. I can't stand being around him right now because every comment from his mouth is negative and i'm getting impatient because i feel like he's sucking the energy from me and i resent it.
How do i deal with this kind of situation? i know i can't control how he feels or can't expect him to be as excited as i am...but does he need to spew his venom all around us?

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Storm, it sounds pretty clearly like he's got some deeper issues. Has he seen a therapist? Would he see a therapist? I think that's a good place to start. A visit to his MD to see if he's a good candidate for depression meds wouldn't be a bad idea either, but it would still need to be followed up by a therapist; meds will mask the problem, but won't do anything to resolve it. Dealing with the root of the problem will resolve it, the negativity and the need for meds. How does he feel about his negativity? Is he happy with how he is?
You're right, you can't change how he feels or thinks, and, having been married to a negative "glass half empty" guy myself I know how defeating and literally exhausting it is to deal with someone like this day in and day out. You can work to stay positive (perhaps hoping the mood will rub off on him) but it doesn't work. Dealing with this sucks the life right out of you. You might try excusing yourself from the situation, "It looks like you could use some time to yourself, I'm going to go in the spare room and unpack for a while.", but I can't honestly say I think it'll work. Like Orangecuse, I tried everything and no matter how hard I worked, how strongly I set my mind, his negativity affected my mood and my being. I can tell you it feels a lot better not being there anymore.
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when you don't get what you want."
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