His kids are ruining our relationship
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|Mon, 06-17-2013 - 7:12am|
I have an amazing boyfriend, he is divorced and my divorce is coming through next month. We really get on well and love each other so much.
However, we both have kids (well, older kids) from our previous marriages, My kids dont live with me and his dont live with him. How I see it, is as much as I love my kids and will always be there for them, I do now want (am mid 50's and him too) a life, ....a life to share with him and I just find that his kids are getting in the way....I see mine only occasionaly probably once a week, whereas, he phones and txts his all the time and rushes to their every need. He has one child in particular who has special needs and this child literally holds a gun to his fathers head!....if my boyfriend misses his calls, he is questioned as to why he neve answered his phone, I find we cannot be together without the constant calls etc....in fact I find it ruins our evenings or days out...I know his child (who is over 18) has special needs, needs to speak to his father and to see him.....but I am finding it all a bit ,much...My boyfriend will not have a word with this child or any of his other kids, and says they play a bit part in his life (sometimes I wonder why he was on a dating site....when he cant really fully commit to that person, even though he has asked me to marry him)
I feel a little threatened by all this, do you think I am being unreasonable?...I dont think I am jealous, I understand fully that he needs to see his kids....but to a point of ruining his relationship with me??
I would appreciate anyones reply