How do I get him to get it?
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|Fri, 06-20-2003 - 1:33pm|
To compound things, the friend whose home we live in has been coming up to visit at least once a week for the past few months and usually stays at least over night. He sometimes arrives very late and he and DF usually are not very quiet. I've tried to tell them how loud they are and they don't seem to understand that I have to sleep so I can work the next day. It doesn't seem to be understood. And sometimes he comes up in the afternoon and I come home to an empty house with no note and no communication from him. They usually go out to eat, or to a movie, or hang out with other people at another friend's house and are gone for quite awhile. Part of what bothers me about this is that I'm rarely if ever included. I can understand going with just the guys sometimes but it'd be nice to at least be invited to dinner on occassion. It also doesn't help that when he does happen to come when I have the following day off, there is no where for me to go when I wake up because DF is sleeping in our bedroom and the friend is sleeping on our living room couch. So then I can't even get things done at home or feel like I can enjoy my day off without feeling displaced. :(
DF says he has come to just expect tears and pouting from me when he's with his friends. I've tried to tell him that I wouldn't be so resentful if he would make an effort to let me know what he's doing, let me know when this friend is coming so I can try and make my own plans for that night, include me on occassion, and spend some nice time with me after his friends are gone. It would also help if I felt like our life was moving forward....as in him finishing his program, getting a job, moving into our own place, etc. I also resent having to ask repeatedly for him to finish the very few things I have asked him to do for our wedding.
Other than these areas, our life is really great. I love him very much and love spending time with him. Any advice on working through this?