My husband and I recently had a major problem, that is weighing me down. First off, we've only been married a year and a half. For the last six months, he has only "graced" me with sex once a month. I'm 45 and he's 53. Well, I started getting suspicious that something else was going on. Trying to calmly talk to him yielded nothing, except his turning things around and his saying the problems were all my fault. Well, my suspicions got the better of me, and I snooped on his computer and in the spare room that he uses (he works nights and sleeps there), and found pictures of nude children and quite a few porno magazines. I went ballastic and after not talking to him for 3 days (my anger was too great), I confronted him and he swore that it was nothing and he would give it all up. I now know that he has done this before we met, while we were dating and in our marriage. As I said, he swears it's over, but I have my doubts.
Now, what I would like to know is whether or not it is possible that he can just give up those things (as sick as they might be). He hurt me so much, and wants me to put things behind me and go forward. I want him to go for therapy, but he sees no need for it because he swears it's over. I'm totally confused and wonder if I should just look forward and not back. I am not one to give up easily, but am wondering if he's worth the effort.
Any and all input would be appreciated. Thank you.