How do I start a conversation in the car
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How do I start a conversation in the car
| Mon, 04-24-2006 - 12:41pm |
Everytime my boyfriend and I are driving anywhere together, we never have anything to talk about in the car. We may ask each other the usual question here and there, but as for a long and exciting conversation, it never seems to happen. We've been together for 4 years and it is something that is getting on my nerves. Everytime I'm in the car with him, I always ask myself, "okay, well, what should I say to him now?" He always turns up the radio to keep some energy going in the car since we never talk. Instead, it's dead silence in the car, we could hear a needle drop in it if we could. I don't like driving around with him and we have nothing to discuss, I'm in desperate need of any advise, tips, or even conversation starters to help us out. I really want our relationship to grow stronger, but I feel as if this is something that is putting a strain on it. Could you please help me out?

This is an interesting topic. With my son's step-father, we never talked while he was driving...but once on vacation, he was tired of driving so I switched places with him and he just started talking and talking. I didn't realize that his focus on driving was a deterrent to conversation.
So you offer to drive next time and see what happens...also consider books on tape.
Do you talk outside of the car? If so, I wouldn't worry about the lack of conversation in the car and enjoy the ride.
Carrie
Itwinflame has a great idea about trying switching drivers.
That aside, I'm wondering if you are able to enjoy a companionable silence at any stage when you are together. Relationships don't have to be all talk - and there are times when it's OK to just enjoy being together without actually talking.
Or do the two of you NEVER have anything to talk about?
Itwinflame had some great suggestions for you. Another great way to get the conversation going is by using conversations cards. Conversation will probably be a little stilted at first, but once you get into it I bet it'll really get some surprising conversation going and you'll learn things about each other you didn't know before! One of you will give your answer, the other will ask questions, throw in a comment, add their own response to the same question, etc. There are different types of conversation cards, and they can be used as group games, ice breakers, and more. I found the website of a SAHM's who has put together a group of conversations cards that are downloadable (PDF format), donation suggested, not mandatory:
The Reign of Ellen A site that sells a set of "Maximize the Moment" Cards for a reasonable price:
Maximize the Moment
and, if you really want to get things going, a box of adult conversations cards called "Hotseat". Here's a site that offers them, though they're unavailable at the present time:
You can likely find them for sale elsewhere, including Ebay (one of my favorite places to shop!).Mabel's Cardroom
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