How do you tell your SO about getting a new job?
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|Fri, 11-08-2013 - 4:53pm|
I will try to keep this as minimal as possible.
Recently, my fiance had to come home because our toddler-aged son locked himself in a bedroom. I tried and tried and tried, and only succeeded in tearing the doorknob off. I've never had so much trouble with a doorknob in my life! I called and texted my fiance, and it wasn't until 20 minutes or so later he finally says that he's not at work (which is 5 minutes down the road) but nearby work and he was coming by with a co-worker of his to help out with the lock.
Soon, they show up and about 5 minutes later the lock was broke into and our son was saved! Moments later, the co-worker muttered, "We better book it before the boss freaks about where we were." My fiance gave me a 2 second glance and then they both bolted out the door. I'm not happy about the fact that my fiance and co-worker came over without their bosses knowledge, honestly, however glad that our son was freed.
Days earlier, my fiance talked about trying to find another job (this is -never- a serious conversation). There are other occassions when he brings up the job issue. The reason being because he knows that he's not making a whole lot of money and that the place he's working at is going downhill fast. He knows that he should find another better paying job with benefits, but he won't. The fact is that he gets too much freedom where he works now and he doesn't want to leave (he works outdoors). I know he's constantly on his phone and he chews tobacco. He talks about his co-workers a lot and their very immature for their ages, another thing my fiance admits to. This job is just "too much fun" to leave, and he won't try to find something better because of that. I don't know what to do.
If anyone's been reading my other posts on various boards, I've been having some trust issues with my fiance from our past. Him saying that he wasn't at work (where he should've been) when our son was locked in and when his co-worker made the comment about their boss makes me worry. It didn't help when he looked at me like, "oh sh--" after the co-worker said what he said.
Other reasons my fiance won't leave his job he says is because it's convenient; he's right down the road, our families all live nearby, saves on gas, etc.
How do I approach the job situation? Honestly, what's fueled me on this whole thing is the fact that he didn't get back with me during an emergency and says that he wasn't at work and then coming here without his bosses knowledge. I know I sound much like a broken record, but I'll say it again; I AM EXTREMELY PARANOID! My fiance may very well not be doing anything "shady," but everything from the past comes back at me when things like this happen. (And if anyone reading this doesn't know, my fiance DOES NOT have a great track record). Regardless, he does need a better job and he's said this.
Please give your insight!