How much is too much?....(m)
How much contact with an ex is too much? I have been dating my boyfriend for a little over a year and we have known each other for 3 years. He was married at the time we met, but got a divorce and we started dating. We just bought a house together and moved in only 2 months ago. Since then his contact with his ex-wife has sky rocketed. They have no children together and all he ever did was talk bad about her. So to me he really has no reason to call her or go see her as much as he does. She just called here about 10 minutes ago and asked him if he could help with something (I don't know what) and he jumps at the chance and heads right over there. The other night he told me he had to go to the bathroom before going to bed, but instead of using one of the bathrooms upstairs (where we were) he has to go all the way downstairs. So I went to see what he was doing and he was on the phone with her. Talked to her for more than 30 minutes. He calls her from work and asks her to give him a call too. I've told him I'm not happy with the amount of communication he has with her, but he says if I don't trust him then we can't have a relationship. I am having a hard time trusting him when he's always going over to see her. He will tell me he's going over to visit his old neighbors and will be back in 30 minutes. 2 hours later he comes home and then admits he was talking to her.
He says he can't forget about 7 years of his life and he stills cares what happens to her. I was in a LTR for 7 years, was even engaged to the guy and when we broke up it was the end of it. I hardly ever talk to my ex. He has a wife now and he has his own life aside from me so I respect that and leave him alone to live his new life. Why can't my boyfriend leave his ex alone to live her new life? She has a boyfriend of her own so she has moved on. Why can't he?
Am I just being paranoid about this? It could all be innocent, but if he really cared about me then wouldn't he respect my feelings and not see her so much?
I'm sorry if this doesn't make much sense but I'm upset right now. Any advice is appreciated.