How wrong am I.... if at all

iVillage Member
Registered: 07-27-2006
How wrong am I.... if at all
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Thu, 07-27-2006 - 3:43pm

New here.... been lurking and I hae to ask am I wrong.

I sold a piece of porperty that I acquired before marrying darling hubby........ well not sell in the traditoinal sense but my interstes were attained by another...... I did not see the need to share this info, as this is and was my property, no monies ever came from hubby's bank account....

He told me that I was wrong became very angry with me and said that I am shady, sneaky and will keep secrets from him that I might as well be cheting on him.

Now yes, may be I should have share the details of the transaction prior to but I was not required to in my opinon as the property was mines prior to marriage, he had no interest.

I can understand your being upset but the name calling, that is throwing me for a loop.....

sorry for any typo's but I am typing through tears.

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iVillage Member
Registered: 07-27-2006
Fri, 07-28-2006 - 12:55pm

Hopefully this will clear up ?'s...

House for sell 1st time - fell out of escrow buyers could not get financing........I tell him and his reply is ok

House for sell 2nd time - thought we were going to close, again buyer financing problems
while in escrow he says you aren't ever going to sell that house people just don't have money like that we are going to be stuck with that house......house fell through again so when the a realtiver suggested buying my interest and keeping the house I said ok

He is upset that I did not tell him all the detials of how I got rid of my interst of the house. I just wantted to get rid of the house as I stated before during the time my house was in escrow 6 other house on the same block went up for sell and are still for sell as I type this.

I was not trying to hide the money for him he knows that I received the money, he is upset over the details of how the transaction transpiried.

iVillage Member
Registered: 12-31-2004
Sat, 07-29-2006 - 5:09pm

He washed his hands of it long ago. It's a little late for him to come crying now about you not telling him about the details when he said "it's your house your money"--that means to me "I'm not a part of it, I'm not involved, I'm not interested". He's just changed his tune and didn't state that he wanted to know the details before you unloaded it---and he should have since he's making such a stink over it. And it all happened before you married him, so really, he didn't have to know squat.

IF he didn't want to know then, then he has no excuse to cry about it now.

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Registered: 03-26-2003
Sun, 07-30-2006 - 12:34am

Based on what you said, putting myself in your position I can see taking the realtor's offer without discussing it with him first. Is this the way he typically reacts to you when he's angry or upset?








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